Post # 17
You need to talk with your brother, just the two fo you. Its really messed up, but guess what? You don’t HAVE To go their wedding, especially if they aren’t coming to yours! And why do your parents feel the need to help with their wedding financially? Doesn’t seem to make sense, its his second wedding, and your first, your the daughter and he’s the son…
Post # 18
Really, it’s not a big deal…. she moved her day so that avoids family clashes, plus they probably aren’t coming to your wedding, as you said, so they probably forgot. Just don’t share a single detail more with either of them – or with any family members can’t keep their mouths shut, just in case they are copying you.
Post # 19
I agree! I wouldnt go if he isnt coming to hers and as for your parents…they sound like mine. They helped my sis but not me. Sorry:(
Post # 20
She moved her day , as PP said it will be evident that she is copying you . She is obviously a little cray cray so I would tread lightly but def have convo with her or your brother about some of the issues
Post # 21
What we know:
-She pushed her day back within 72 hours of being engaged.
-she loves drama
Not that I’m wishing for more drama for your brother, but I have a feeling she’s not done. Continue with your planning. Watch the roller coaster from afar, but refuse to ride. I bet she has more crazy changes to come.
Post # 22
@Jeannine @ Small Chic:
Do you and don’t worry what they do hear on out. If they were already making excuses about not coming to your wedding, to me thats a blessing. I know you miss your brother but he hasn’t made the effort to see you in 4 years, thats not her fault, its on him.
Post # 23
I’d be really, really upset. I feel like a lot of people have tried to overshadow my big day, but no one has come that close to my date! Take my advice and the advice another person gave: DO NOT share ANY information regarding your planning with you Future Sister-In-Law. If someone in your family is a threat to spilling the beans, don’t let them in on the planning either. Keep everything a secret. Consider changing your colors without telling her. Browse around on the Bee for awesome tips to make your wedding memorable and special. Whatever you do, don’t let your brother and Future Sister-In-Law know what you’re up to. She obviously is an attention whore.
Post # 24
Thank you so much for the advice but me and the Fiance decided to push out date out another year to make it easier on everybody. we just found out his sister will be getting deployed in october sometime so instead of being short one bridesmaid we are just going to wait another yr …i knew everything was too good to be true…sigh just bummed becuase i know the likely hood of us actually having a real WEDDING isi very very minimal at this point and i was finally getting rly excited to start planning because we are…sigh, where at our yr count down mark
Post # 25
Reading this makes me sooo angry!!! I can’t believe some people! How does your family feel about this?!
Post # 26
[statement edited to remove personal attack by Mrs. DG] If you want to get married in 2012, then have it earlier than October! No one is stopping you from having it in September (or July or August, etc) of 2012 and his sister will still be here. If you rather wait until 2013 to save up more money or whatnot have it then. But you need to stop playing the martyr card.
Sorry to be so blunt. You just remind me of my mom and this trait drives me cray-cray.
Post # 27
Wow, was that really necessary? No need to be rude. OP was venting. She’s already invested money in her date, she was engaged and planning first, and you’re suggesting she should just change everything for her brother and his fiancee? It’s a sucky situation and certainly not OP’s fault.
Post # 28
No, she doesn’t need to change anything at all! She can keep her date if she wants, or change it so that she can keep her fiance’s sister in the wedding. Thats the point! Do what you want, OP! Dont’t let other people get you so down that you go all “I dont even want a wedding” or “Fine, we’ll just push our wedding back, poor me I don’t want to though!”
@Galloqay111: You may think its rude, I think of it as tough love. Its what someone should tell her. Because honestly, what will make her happier? People telling her oh poor you, this sucks, or saying hey change your viewpoint and don’t let other people affect your own happiness?
Okay, getting off soapbox now and to sleep!
Post # 29
wait, so you were going to have this crazy lady in your wedding? Go ahead and have YOUR day when YOU and your Fiance wanted to! She’ll likely change her mind on something else. If you move your date I would put money that so would she. heck, move it back to when she’s deployed hehehehe but I’m evil like that.
Post # 30
Please don’t move your date and secretly resent you brother Girlfriend later on. If you change, it own it! It won’t be fair to put this on her later like some kinda badge ‘OMG i moved the date just cause of her.
So many things can happen within a years time, personally I would simply keep my original date. So in a way I kinda agree with @Leeluu:
when she says she doesn’t need to change anything at all! She can keep her date if she wants, or change it so that she can keep her fiance’s sister in the wedding. Thats the point! Do what you want, OP!
Post # 31
ok first u need to breathe and second go take a nice long bubble bath and then plan ur wedding on the date u want to and make it the best day and most special day of ur life