Post # 1
So I know my wedding is 2 years away but a lot of the vendors/locations I’m looking at book really quickly so I wanted to be ahead of the game and start booking things within the next 6 months. The venue at least because I’m in love with it.
Anyways seeing as it’s so far out I’ll most likely have my choice of dates and this is where my issue is. For whatever reason I’ve fallen in love with the 23rd of June 2012. Maybe it sounds stupid, but it just sounds like a nice date to me and I had been planning on that date for a few months now lol. Well it turns out that’s also my Maid/Matron of Honor and her bfs anniversary (I couldn’t remember). I also told her what song we wanted for our first dance because it is 100% us (Lucky by Jason Mraz and Colbie Caillat) and turns out that’s actually their song too. They’ve been together 3 years longer than we have but he isn’t close to proposing (according to him) so I feel like if I were to pick their anniversary and their song I’d just be rubbing it in her face which I absolutely do not want to do! I had been ok with June 16th as my backup, but for whatever reason I’m still bummed that I might have to give up the 23rd. I’m sure I’m totally crazy by obsessing over a date so much but I can’t seem to help it lol.
So bees, do you think we should pick a different song and a different date to avoid hurting her feelings, or should I go ahead and plan to get married on the 23rd of June?
Any opinions would be really appreciated!
Post # 3
I think you can stick with the date, after all it’s only their dating anniversary which is not that significant in the grand scheme of things. You may think about another song, though.
Post # 4
I think if the date means nothing special to you already, leave it. However, everyone has a song and many people have the same song. I wouldn’t worry about that.
Leave the date and keep the song.
Post # 5
Thanks for the opinions! We might end up changing the song and picking something else for the first dance at least. It sucks because that’s always been our song (we just got through a military deployment and that song kinda summed up everything) but I don’t want to hurt her and would definitely change it to avoid that. If we did decide on the 23rd maybe we could have that song play a bit later in the night so they could dance to it too and we could say congratulations to them for their anniversary? That way I’m not totally stealing their day. I don’t know if that’s a good idea or not. I will definitely talk to her about this at some point before booking, I just wanted others opinions before I did incase everyone said it was a horrible idea and I upset her by even asking…
Post # 6
Oh! Keep the date and the song! This is your wedding and the song means something special to you – their non engagment doesnt really have anything to do with your wedding. That is more than gracious for you to offer to move your date and song, but as a Maid/Matron of Honor, maybe a gracious gesture from her would be to accept that this is your wedding! Anyway, maybe within the next two years they will have a) a new song, b) a wedding date and so you won’t need to compromise yours!
Edit: And I don’t think you even need to bring up the first song yet, as it will be one of the last things you plan anyway