(Closed) need help choosing bridesmaids

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What bridal party would you pick?
    Just have the first 5 girls (no Sue or Leigh) : (2 votes)
    25 %
    Have 6 girls (including Sue, but not Leigh) : (0 votes)
    Have 6 girls (including Leigh, but not Sue) : (2 votes)
    25 %
    Have 7 girls (including Leigh and Sue) : (2 votes)
    25 %
    Have 8 girls (including Leigh, Sue, and Shannon) : (2 votes)
    25 %
    Have 8 girls (including Leigh, Sue, and cousin/aunt) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    12103 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @jennygrl070:  WAAAAAAAY too complicated!

     

    I’ll say this.  When the first of my friends to be married planned her wedding, of our group of friends that have been close since middle school (i’ve known her since we were 6) I was the only one left out.  She had her sister, cousin, friend she met in university (who she hated for the first 2 years they knew each other, they’d only been close about a year), and 4 other girls …yep, 7 maids.  I was REALLY hurt she left me out.  I think she realized and she ended up asking me to do other wedding things but it really wasn’t the same.  

    Post # 4
    Member
    2872 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Hm.  Picking bridesmaids is tough!  I ended up with my sister, my best friend since third grade, and then a mutual friend of me and my BFF who I have known since high school.  However, I am not sure whether I regret asking this other friend, and wonder if I should have just kept it at two.  She and I get along SO well when we are together, but she lives across the country and I very rarely see her.  We still keep in touch now (texting a full conversation every few weeks) but I worry that if we lose touch, I will regret having her in my wedding photos (ohh that sounds bad as I write it out…). However, I already asked her and I’m sure not going to kick her out!!

    So… I voted 7, but now that I think about it more, I think there’s something to be said about being more ‘conservative’ with your wedding party and just sticking with the initial 5 that you KNOW you want to have there, because although they’re there day-of, they will also be in your memories and photos forever.  Just a thought. 

    Have you talked to your for-sure BMs, particularly the mutual friends of the optional ones, to get their thoughts?

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