(Closed) Need help deciding if I should tell somebody about cheating…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What would you do in this situation?
    Mind my own business/Stay out of it : (65 votes)
    53 %
    Tell him : (34 votes)
    28 %
    Tell his roommate/best friend : (23 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4311 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would stay out of it. You don’t have any real proof of anything.

    Post # 4
    Member
    9956 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @bailey12:   I’m confused about something – why do you think your friend hasn’t seen the same Facebook posts you have?  Wouldn’t he already be aware of this?

    Either way, stay out of it, none of your business.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2470 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    If you had any actual proof, I’d contact this girl and basically tell her, “You tell him or I will.”

    But since you don’t, I’d stay out of it.

    She’s posting this stuff all over facebook, which is super weird. Sounds like she’s not too worried about him finding out to begin with, so likely it’ll get back around to him without your help.

    Post # 8
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    14658 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    She sounds pretty stupid if she’s posting it on her facebook, esp if her Boyfriend or Best Friend is on there, even with all the blocking she’s trying to do.  I’d stay out of it, she’s bound to srew up and get herself caught sooner or later.  Or if you have hard proof through your friend.  Screen shot it and bring it to your friend to talk about.  I wouldn’t just say somethign without lots of proof.

    Post # 9
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    9956 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @bailey12:   If he knows he’s blocked then he should be suspicious anyway.  It sounds as though he’s much more serious about her than she is about him.  And there’s nothing wrong with that, right?  She’s allowed to feel how she wants to feel. 

    What would be wrong would be if she’s lying to your friend outright and promising him that she’s exclusively his, loves only him, etc.  Do you think that’s what she’s doing?  If so, what I would do is just casually ask him about the status of their relationship rather than tell him exactly what she’s posted on Facebook, if she obviously doesn’t want him to know about it. 

    It could be that although he has strong feelings for her she is being honest with him about not reciprocating his feelings. 

    Post # 13
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    9956 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @bailey12:  Then I have to agree with  @pinkshoes: that she doesn’t sound like the brightest bulb in the pack.  She’s going to get caught sooner or later regardless of whether you’re the one to tell him or not.  Not to mention, her boss’s wife deserves to know – ugh – what a mess. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    1131 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It’s on FB. He must know…

    Post # 16
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    1131 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @bailey12:  because Facebook is so public. if most of her FB friends can see (except you and her bf etc) then someone else has already told him, I’m sure. 

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