Post # 1
My wedding date is 04/2013 and I don’t know what to do for the reception.
Unfortunately, our budget is very very small ($2000). We want to try to buy a home next year so we can’t afford to spend a lot of money on the wedding. We have like 90 people in our list (which 75 are family members). We’re having a ceremony at church.
We found a place that we’ll rent us a room for the party for $400 including tables and chairs, but then when you add the food, decorations, alcohol, cake, and other items it comes up to around $3000. To me this is too much. I’m scared that things will come up at the last minute and it will end up being more expensive than expected.
Have the church ceremony and just going with our close friends to the club at night to celebrate, buy around 3-4 bottles ($500 total), dance and party all night, and just go home afterwards.
Have the ceremony at church and just go home and not do a reception.
I would love to be able to have a nice reception to celebrate with the family and close friends. I don’t know what to do…
Post # 3
Maybe go with option #1 but instead of doing a full meal and open bar maybe consider a cake and punch reception. So, serve your wedding cake and have a signature cocktail available for people along with coffee and tea… this would be super cheap, but you could still celebrate with those who would not be interested in going out to a bar…
Post # 4
Do option 1 but cut back on your budget for food, decoratioms, alcohol, and cake. Ideas about how to do this:
–decorations: do something very, very simple. Chinese paper lanterns are pretty and inexpensive. Avoid fresh flowers!
–cake: make your own, or buy a small one for display and feed everyone with sheet cake, or make cupcakes…
–food: serve pasta and salad, or have your reception be pot luck
–alcohol: just serve wine, and buy the big jugs.
There are ways to cut back and still have a lovely reception! I think this would be preferable to just going out and partying at a bar (or skipping it altogether), which it sounds like is not really what you want.
Post # 5
Can you have a reception at the church. This is usually well under 400. Also a dessert ot appetizer reception. And minimal decorations. It can be done!
Post # 6
Maybe a friday or sunday reception or brunch are usually cheaper. Also, do you have any friends and family that know how to do stuff (cake, food, photography, etc). If you want to do a night reception and have alcohol what about a cash bar?
Post # 7
We are having an appetizers/cake/punch reception in the evening for 110 people. Even with it being catered, it is coming out to less than 2 K and that includes the venue.
On the other paw, the next day we are doing a huge casual pig roast. The venue is only $250for the day, the pig roast is costing only $6/per guest and we are getting cases of soda and two half kegs of beer. Still less than 2K!
Post # 8
Have a cake and punch reception – make your ceremony around 1pm or so, and then an afternoon reception. Food is cake, punch, and appetizers. You can have music and have your first dance, etc. And it can definetly be done for $3000!
Post # 9
I think you can still do option 1 w/o going overbudget. Try different food options to get the price lower. I wouldn’t worry about the alcohol but if you insist, I’d go with a keg or 2 of beer. Definitely skip flowers since they add up quick. I personally love the look of lots and lots of candles for a reception.
I know cakes can be expensive so I’d look to see if there are any newer bakers online in your area. I know someone who did gorgeous wedding cakes for cheap b/c she was trying to get her home business up and running.
Post # 10
I would stick with Option 1 and cut or minimize a few things as others have suggested. I would have it as early as possible so you can do a brunch. One to three candles of varying height with a few rose petals can make a nice, inexpensive centerpiece.
Post # 11
Thank you ladies for all the suggestions.
Post # 12
Could you find a restaurant that accomodate your guest list and will just charge for food? Like a limited menu? Maybe $20 per person? Most of the time restaurants look pretty nice so I would skip the decorations completely. You might even be able to find a place that will include the meal, drink, and a desert for a decent per person rate.
If you do it early afternoon like some suggested you can get an even cheaper meals because lunches are typically offered cheaper at places than dinner plus your guests won’t be expecting as much alcohol. You could still do the club that night but then you don’t have to offer to pay for drinks.
I like the idea of using the Church Parish Hall. Sometimes they are free to reserve just depends on the church and if you are a member. But sometimes the parish halls aren’t as cute so you might need more on decorations but as people mentioned you might be able to get some the family members to help out with items. Does someone garden? Can provide some flowers? Can a couple folks cook side items and bake the cake and then you just provide the main thing.
I think if you keep it simple you can provide people with food and still have the wedding with a reception.
Post # 13
Have you thought about a brunch wedding? For that amount of people it would be really easy to get a bunch of mini and fun pastries from Sam’s and maybe have a caterer to a waffle and omelet bar. And mimosa’s- cheap to make. And a sunrise wedding ceromony- fun! Then I would relax in the afternoon, pics whatever, and have friends who want to jump on a party bus and go to a bar or restaurant. That should be under 2k
Post # 14
Option 1 would probably be a good option. Although I have to admit option 2 is fun
I had/am having 2 weddings due to our different cultures, so whilst I am still not legally married til September, I had an Indian style wedding in April. After the ceremony and the meal we went out to a bollywood club still in our Indian wedding attire (and our friends wore cultural clothing too) and had a whole heap of fun.
Apart from our friends we didn’t know anybody in the club but loads of people came up and congratulated us and the DJ kept making announcements about there being a bride and groom in the building lol.
However, thinking about it afterwards, I wondered if it would be the same sort of atmosphere if I went to an English style club in my English style wedding dress. I almost think the atmosphere might be a little hostile lol but maybe if you’re in the states this is different? And you don’t have to go in your wedding dress of course haha.
But overall, I think option 1 sounds really nice, and very similar to a number of weddings I’ve been to/heard about over here so I don’t think it would stand out as being on a budget at all 🙂