Post # 1
Hey bees, I am having a difficult time here. I want dancing, and my mister doesn’t. As a compromise we are having an ipod reception with the music changing from a laid back chill vibe to a dance vibe later in the evening. But what to do before the dancing starts? I like that it will have a somewhat dinner party vibe with people sitting around and chatting with their glass of wine in hand. Is that enough? Would it be overkill to have Amelie playing in the background if people wanted to watch? It would be so much easier if he loved shaking it as much as I do, but somehow I ended up with an adorable introvert!
Guidance and suggestions wanted and appreciated!
Post # 3
He doesn’t want dancing just because he doesn’t dance? Does he think his family and friends would prefer limited dancing? I wouldn’t know what to do without dancing at an evening reception, to be honest. Keep trying to talk him into it!
Post # 4
I might suggest starting off the evening with dancing, and then slowly starting to settle the party down. =) Maybe have an hour or so of dancing (I assume you’re having a first dance, etc?) and then start to fade it out? Some of the things I’ve heard suggested are playing games such as horseshoes or croquet (or baseball!) if you’re outside, etc. What you have to think of is what do you do at home when you host a dinner party. Most people watch a movie and chat, right? So if you want, you can try and incorporate that.
See this post for ideas, if you’d like: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/alternatives-to-dancing-reception
Post # 5
Thanks for the link. We will figure something out… I hope! I do think the majority of our crowd (with the exception of my friends) are non dancers, which is why I haven’t pushed too hard. Maybe people will just be so full from all the delicious food and desserts they wont even want to dance!
Post # 6
I’ve only ever been to 2 weddings (evening receptions) with no dancing. The first, the couple wasn’t into dancing at all. It felt like a regular night at a restaurant – quiet background music, lots of talking and laughing. The second, the couple wasn’t into dancing but felt obligated to have a first dance. So they did (looking terrified and awkward) and the bridal party and parents had a bit of a dance, but once the happy couple left the dance floor to talk to guests, it died pretty quickly. Considering neither of them was interested in dancing, I felt it would have been better to just not have it at all. It was odd to have loud music and an empty dance floor, in my opinion! You could think about games to keep people occupied but in these experiences, people were more than happy to just chat and drink and eat the cake and move around to different tables. I wouldn’t put a movie on – at least with games people can still socialise, but a movie sort of lets people stop interacting, you know? I hope this helps!
FWIW I’m a very keen dancer, as are most of my friends and family. FH is not at all, although a few of his friends don’t mind a boogie. We’ll have a non traditional first dance (to a party song, for about 10 seconds) and invite everyone to join us quickly. No slow songs for us. FH would be thrilled if I agreed to no dancing, but to me it really makes a party and I know it will be a fun night. It doesn’t bother me if he doesn’t spend much time out there, as long as our guests enjoy themselves, whatever they’re doing 🙂