(Closed) Need help for destination wedding

posted 3 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We had one in Mexico in February. Guests paid about $800/pp for the hotel for 4 nights. Our resort was top notch. Nothing missing. You need to realize that not everyone is coming. We had so many people claim they would come and ended up with 48 guests, which is a lot for a Destination Wedding.

Post # 3
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752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I live in the GTA and am having a destination wedding. Have you contacted a company that specializes in Destination Weddings with your budget? I’ve been working with a great travel agent who works out of Mississauga, feel free to message me if you want the company name. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

honestly the price sounds perfectly reasonable if that’s what you want to do.  5 nights in hotel at, say, 200 per night = 1000.  A flight across the US is 5-800, so I’d expect one from Canada to another country to be at least the same.  And there you go.  That’s not even including meals, clothing and things.

Personally this is exactly why I don’t like destination weddings.  Sure it’s pretty, but it seems like the couple is shouldering the cost of their wedding off onto the guests.  You’ll find the list of acceptees is lower as well, because many can’t afford the cost, the time, or whatever.  Heck, my wedding was in my own state, with guests coming from either coast and only half the invitees accepted.

Any reason you can’t just get married in Toronto?  Go to the tropics for your honeymoon? Not trying to be a jerk, just want to put it in perspective.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

Just be prepared that no matter how many people tell you a year ahead that they would love to attend and are looking forward to it when the time comes many will not, for all sorts of reasons including cost and time away from work and family. 

There have been countless posts on the Bee from brides complaining that their guests had X number of months to save and they just can’t understand why they now say they cannot afford to attend. Don’t be one of those brides. If you choose a destination wedding do so with the expectation that a lot of people will not be able to prioritize this time and expense over other things, accept it, and enjoy your wedding with those who can attend. Good friends may not be able to be there, it’s no reflection on how much they care about you. Most weddings do not require international travel, thousands of dollars and 5-6 days. It’s a lot to ask.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

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kparmar :  Yes, that’s too much. I might possibly spend that to attend my own kids’ wedding, but guaranteed nobody else’s and honestly, if my budget was tight, I’d tell my kids sorry. I would never make them feel bad for their decision, but if they put me in the position of choosing between my house payment and their wedding which they could just as easily have locally, they should not make me feel bad for my decision either. 

Also, please keep in mind that DWs are like puppies — fun in theory and when you first tell people you’re thinking of breeding your dog, they will all say “oh that’s so awesome, of course I’ll take a puppy!” But then when the time comes, everyone has a reason why they can’t. Don’t be mad at them when they can’t come. When they said they would, they meant it but then reality set it. 

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper

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kparmar :  Inviting 75-80 people to an expensive international destination wedding is not the same thing as an intimate group planning a trip together. Despite what you may say to them, guests can and do feel pressured by the idea that it is the once in a lifetime wedding of a friend or loved one to spend big money on your idea of their vacation. 

I agree with a PP. If you want the exotic venue, make it your honeymoon. 

 

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