(Closed) Need help, going shopping with FMIL…

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@Lbward6:  Hopefully she’ll present you with a few options that she’s picked out herself and you’ll make the final decision from there.  I’d wait for her to ask you if you have anything particular in mind before mentioning the black/baroque pearls.  If she doesn’t ask, and presents you with options that are too similar to your grandmother’s set, I think it’s ok to mention that you already have something similar in length/size/etc. and was hoping for something a little different so you have more opportunities to wear it.  Good luck! — I can totally understand how you don’t want to offend her.  Just let her take the lead and make subtle suggestions if you can. 

Post # 4
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It can be uncomfortable if you go with someone to pick out a gift. I was in that situation with my Mother-In-Law a few months back. She wanted to get me a work bag since I received a great job offer. It was a really nice gesture but i’m super picky with what I want and I tend to have more expensive taste than most people prefer. I just went along with it, had her choose something that she felt comfortable with purchasing, and used it once or twice so she was happy I used it. We recently moved and I now use a work bag a lot more often as my commute has become more involved with the subway, so I purchased a bag more to my liking…I just made sure at that time she was having a lovely day and enjoying herself.

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