(Closed) Need help in constructing a well written email to a person NOT invited.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
3942 posts
Honey bee

Just don’t invite her? I don’t understand why you would need to email her just to tell her she isn’t invited.

Post # 4
Member
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you only see her a couple times a year, why can’t you just *not* invite her?  I don’t see how an unsolicited e-mail on the subject would be helpful.

 

Post # 5
Member
3981 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Why do you have to make a point to point out she isn’t invited? Just don’t send her an invite or talk about the wedding with her! Or is she already inviting herself?

Post # 6
Member
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I feel like e-mailing her would be just asking for drama. Why would you even consider doing that if she is “legit crazy?” Just let it be and don’t invite her. You don’t need to explain yourself.

Post # 9
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Hmm…. what if you just didn’t send her the invite and let her come to you and ask about it; then gently let her know that given the venue and headcount you were limited in the guests you could invite. Or blame it on the family… “They invited soo many of people we had to cut our friend’s list significantly…. etc.” I think sending out an email about it right now would probably start drama… Maybe she’ll get the message when she doesn’t get the invite and you won’t even need to  have a convo about it.

 

Post # 10
Member
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@kim14410: Eh, I would just gradually pull away from her and let the friendship fizzle out. I just think that starting that up with a crazy chick would be no good for you. And trust me, I have major experience in dealing with the crazies! 😛

Post # 11
Member
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think I’d rid myself of this friendship.  I don’t care how cute or sweet someone’s 1 year old is, if they’re a bad person/friend/partner/whatever, they’ve gotta go.  Just fade away, IMO.

Post # 12
Member
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Just be honest with her. What do you have to lose? She deserves a phone call at least over an email and I’d just tell her the truth. You will feel much better and it wont stress you out anymore.

Post # 14
Member
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with pp you dont need to email her to tell her she isnt invited. Thats like the cellphone commercial where the girl calls the guy to tell him she is giving him the silent treatment lol

Post # 15
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Sounds like you should just phase her out of your life altogether. I’m sure her daughter is wonderful, but you really shouldn’t carry on friendships with people you don’t like.

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