(Closed) need help, not sure what to do

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should we
    suck it up and invite the 2 girls who were not on the invite list : (6 votes)
    35 %
    Its your wedding do what you want to do even if it she thinks its rude : (7 votes)
    41 %
    There is a way to let her know they are not invted without it soundig bad : (4 votes)
    24 %
    other...(let me know what your ideas are) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    2891 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    How about “Due to budget and space restraints we were unable to invite everyone we wanted to. I am so sorry but we hadn’t planned on the girls coming. If it wasn’t for money being so tight and this economy we would have been able to invite everyone. This all just makes me so sad. There were so many people I wanted to invite.” sniff 

    Post # 4
    2494 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I would just tell her that, unfortunately, the girls were not invited simply because you are trying to keep the guest list small. I would let her know that she and her husband are more than welcome to come and you hope they are still able to make it to the wedding. If she argues, just stay firm and stress words like “close family” and “look forward to seeing you” and “limited space in the venue” and “fire codes”. If all else fails, get Fiance to talk to the uncle.

    Post # 5
    2494 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @secondchances:  Depending on the person, if you stress finances she might offer to pay for them to show up. BE CAREFUL!!!!!

    Post # 6
    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I’d be very careful with family of not inviting children under 18.

    I don’t see how you can do it without being offensive unless you didn’t invite any other children under 18.

    Post # 7
    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @Future Mrs K:   I would say just suck it up – it’s only going to be one extra person since your uncle can’t come and you were planning on two to begin with, now it’s three. Fair enough that your uncle and aunt are recently married and the girls aren’t really a part of the family yet, but don’t you think this would be a good way for them to get to be a part of the family?   

    I know you mentioned concerns with the 15 yr old’s behaviour but ultimately, that’s not going to be your problem.  It will be up to her mother to ensure she behaves herself and as for alcohol, just alert the bartenders that there will be underage kids at the wedding.  Part of their job is being vigilant to make sure they are not serving underage kids – especially a 15 yr old as I have yet to see a 15 yr old that could easily pass for 35 (which is the age when they’re supposed to stop carding you!)  

    For the sake of family peace, I’d let it go.

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