(Closed) Need help! Officiant issues

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
8351 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would have your Uncle perform the ceremony and have your FI’s friend do a reading during the ceremony.

Post # 4
2206 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

This seems like a bigger issue than how to involve people. He doesn’t understand the big deal? And you want a family member, who understands your faith?

I think you probably need to have a major discussion about what faith means to both of you, in ceremony and in regular life. This just raises a flag that a bigger conversation than who officiates needs to happen, for the sake of your long term happiness.

Good luck!

Post # 5
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That is hard.  It seems that you have had several conversations about this too, so it’s not like you could just let some time pass. I’m also sure you’ve explained to him what it would mean to you, right?

Have you asked him why he’s so against your uncle? I wish I had more. I hope this works out for the best.

Post # 6
4566 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… this sounds like it’s really important to you. Have you sat down and explained why its important? If he’s a “new” Christian, alot of things can be overwhelming to him, and alot of things might not make a whole lot of sense. Alot of people have been asking us “well, why doesn’t someone important to you do your ceremony in Atlanta?” when it’s really important for Mr. KM’s mentor (an ordained minister) do the service. I get where you’re coming from and you are more than welcome to PM me. Mr. KM is a minister and might be able to explain it better than either one of us can. Much love!

Post # 8
397 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with @noritake22, have your FI’s friend do a reading of sorts.  

One of my best friends got married two summers ago, and they had two people play major roles in officiating.  One prayed over them and conducted the wedding vows, the other did a reading, and led the congregation in a prayer while the couple did communion.  


good luck!

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