(Closed) Need help on ideas for Reception Meal- Parents not helping

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Yay budget brides!

Some of the paperware out there today is amazing; I think you can totally do it and still be classy ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m on a budget too, and we’re actually cutting favors all together, because they’re kind of optional.

For the food, what about some delicious homemade applesauce? The kind with big juicy chunks of apple, brown sugar and cinnamon on top… mmmm… or tossed salad, bread baskets, fruit salad, there are lots of great side dish choices that are simple and still delicious!

Post # 4
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

There is nothing “tacky” about a college student looking for less-expensive ways of paying for her wedding!  Plastic utensils and paper plates are fine.  A way to “dress up” the utensils would be to budle them by place setting and wrap them in a colorful paper (or cloth) napkin tied with ribbon or twine.  I am doing cloth napkins for my wedding by buying discount cotton fabric and cutting it into squares.  Homespun works great for this beause you get a nice fringe. 

I noticed you live in Vermont and are having a July wedding.  I am also a Vermont bride and I am planning on taking advantage of the summer bounty of fresh veggies that will be availible to you.  Try finding a local farmer who is willing to give you a discount on veggies in bulk.  Even a green salad with lettuce and cucumbers, sprinkled with dried cranberries and seseme seeds is a refreshing, tasty vegetable dish to serve with the meat and potatos. 

I love the boxed candy idea!

Your guests will be there to celebrate your wedding and I’m sure they will not care what kind of plates their delicious food is served on ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Pretty paper plates and creative table layouts will be wonderful and not tacky–you’re getting married in the summer in Vermont so you’re already guaranteed to have a beautiful wedding anyway, just think about it that way!

For the meal, I agree that you should definitely take advantage of all the wonderful fresh produce that will be available in the summer. What about a corn, basill, and tomato salad as a side dish? Or arugula and fresh peaches (I know that at least in New Hampshire there are wonderful, small, sweet, juicy local peaches to be had at that time of year) with feta cheese as a salad? You could also do great bread baskets too, which shouldn’t be too expensive but are good and filling. Also, for your main dish, you could ask the ladies to cook large cuts of meat and that might save you some money (big roasts etc. are usually cheaper per pound than cut-up kabob meat) and make it feel like more of an event–you can grill whole legs of lamb or whole salmon, for example, or serve roasted pork tenderloins with a maple and mustard glaze or something like that.

Post # 6
1580 posts
Bumble bee

The added bonus of the paper plates is that you don’t have to wash them or figure out what to do with them after they are used. But if you have a bunch of family and friends who could help you with the logistics, you could get plates from goodwill or other thrift stores, or maybe ebay for cheap. You could go for the shabby-chic look and get all sorts of different patterns.

One thing about paper products and the outdoors that you have to take into account is the wind. You probably wont be able to set up the place settings if it is windy.

Post # 8
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Shish kabobs are very time consuming to prepare assempbly and to cook.  It may be easier for the church ladies to come up with a menu that is easiest for them.  They may have some good ideas. 

Also, to help with the cost of meats, make sure to provide lots of side dishes.  Even something as simple as corn on the cob or green beans or something that just has to be heated up is simple cheap and makes your buffet spread look much fuller and tastier.

I know this is bad, but some of the best party/mass quantity food that I have ever had was church lady food for my grandmas funeral.  Again, it was all about just lots of options.  Pasta Salads, veggies, casseroles, etc.

Post # 9
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2004

BJ’s has great disposable flatware that looks like silver and plates that look real, and are heavy-duty plastic–cute square-shaped ones, too!.

I used them last year for Thanksgiving when I was recovering from a c-section AND hosting both families (!), and it worked out well–the table actually looked beautiful! I’m attaching a pic (sorry if the quality’s not great–just a snapshot I took right now on my kitchen table!). 


P.S. Sorry about the watermark. My site automatically adds it when I share pics.

Post # 10
2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Here’s some ideas from another New England bride-to-be:

A green salad “bar” – have your greens (maybe different local lettuces and baby spinach), then different options like roasted corn kernels, cucumbers, tomatoes, sweet peppers/onions, crumbled cheeses (goat cheese, cheddar, etc.), and dressings on the side. You could even make your own dressings.

Where your fiancé lives on a dairy farm – could you trade neighboring farmers for fruits, or even meat to help save on costs?

With all the fresh fruits and veggies – maybe some pasta, like a lasagna, or stuffed shells? Those are easy enough to make ahead, and we both, we could do a vegetarian and meat option.

Post # 13
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I like the church buffet idea too!!!!

Post # 14
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2004

@colorfulbride: They’re not huge, but they work; and they come with sets of appetizer plates, too (those are on top in the pic; the dinner plates are on the bottom). The flatware in that picture is the “silver” plasticware that we used (also from BJ’s). The best thing about those plates is that they are so sturdy–it’s not like using regular disposable stuff at all. You can even walk around comfortably with them.

I think BJ’s also has white circular heavyweight plastic plates with silver trim. Those might be a little bigger, I think.

I think you are going to have a beautiful wedding!


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