Post # 1
I am 45 and getting married next October and was asked by my officiant who was walking me down the aisle or giving me away. My father is 90 and in a nursing home (he gave me away for my first wedding), my mother is also in a nursing home. I have no brothers, no sons, and no uncles. I have two daughters, age 22 and 13 and they do not want to do it and I am not forcing them to do anything they aren’t comfortable with. My fiance has offered to have his dad walk me, but that just doesn’t seem right since I am marrying into his family. I have no close guy friends…just my fiance 🙂
We are having a small outdoor wedding with only a dozen people (immediate family and best friends). Who should I have walk me down the aisle? Any suggestions? This will be a second marriage for both of us!
Post # 4
If you are comfortable walking by yourself down the aisle, then I would say do that. Plenty of brides decide to walk by themselves.
Post # 5
@vorpalette: I agree! Walk yourself 🙂 Nothin’ wrong with that!
Post # 6
Walk halfway down yourself and then have your Fiance meet you halfway down the aisle.
Post # 7
@cplace: So, do I decline my fiance’s offer to have his dad walk me? Should I walk alone before having my fiance’s dad do it?
Post # 8
@arsing89: I like the idea of meeting my Fiance half way! Thanks!
Post # 9
When I read your post, I just picutred what that person presents. Person who walks you down the isle. It is your connection to yourself and from there to your past, present and future.
I think it means that someone representing you that knows you, supports you, and that walked the path with you as a woman that lead you to your SO and your future, someone who will continue to walk the path with you in your new life.
So I say, and hope you have a great girl friend that can represent this for you and will walk you down the isle.
Post # 10
I do have a best friend that will be attending and would do that for me. So does everyone agree that having my future Father In Law would be inappropriate? I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, because I think my fiance offered this because he knew my dad was unable and he offered up his dad. Thanks for everyone for their suggestions by the way!
Post # 11
I agree that you should have someone who really knows you to walk you down the aisle. If you are super close with your Future Father-In-Law, then that’s fine… but I’m gathering that even though you like him, that’s not the case.
I think walking yourself or the idea of a close friend are both good ideas. The close friend idea is really sweet, I think.
Post # 12
@cplace: I actually considered this as well (having my future Father-In-Law walk me down the isle). While I don’t think it’s inappropriate, it just doesn’t make sense to me. While we get along great and he loves me (as a future DIL), he has no “right” or reason to give me away since he does not know me THAT well, so I decided against it. For me, it will probably be my uncle, if he doesn’t come (due to long distance) my male cousin, if he can’t come, then my mom and aunt together.
In your situation I would let your close friend do it! I don’t think there is anything wrong at all to have a woman give you away if you are very close and have been for a while! It will be more meaningful than your future Father-In-Law walking you IMO.