(Closed) Need help picking bridesmaids last minute!!!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who would you choose for a bridesmaid?
    The best man/FI brothers girlfriend : (7 votes)
    24 %
    The coworker : (0 votes)
    A cousin : (4 votes)
    14 %
    Other idea : (18 votes)
    62 %
  • Post # 3
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    644 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t think I would have any of them? I think the people in your wedding party should be the people closest to you and your Fiance. It sounds like you don’t know these people well. Is there a reason you have to have another bridesmaid?

    Post # 5
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    25 posts
    Newbee

    None of them. The point of bridesmaids is to have people you’re close to standing with you, and it doesn’t sound like you have much of a relationship with them. Don’t pick people just to even out numbers.

    Post # 7
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    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    Agreed with PPs – bridesmaids should not be chosen as placeholders, they should reflect the truly important people in your lives.

    If there are any women that your Fiance is close to (a sister? a good friend?) it might make sense to have them stand up with you, but I wouldn’t ask people who are basically acquaintances of yours just for the sake of symmetry. Who the people ARE to you is much more important than how the wedding pictures look.

    Post # 9
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    9549 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Sorry, but my vote is to get over your issues with evenness and not ask any of them. The people standing by you should be the people you love and depend on and couldn’t imagine being there without. Not the random people you kinda get along with who make the pictures look even.

    Post # 10
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    7649 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I know it bothers you to have uneven sides, but if it were me I wouldn’t chose any of them. The people that stand up there are the ones that mean the most to you. It doesn’t sound like anyone that you will pick is going to be someone that you truly know well and love. If I HAD to chose one, I would chose family because you don’t know what will hapen with the gf or the co-workers (nor family but I think that is a little more stable).

    Keep in mind whoever you chose will be in a lot of your wedding pictures.

    Post # 11
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    716 posts
    Busy bee

    none of them, frankly.  they aren’t props you put you to even up the sides, they should be close friends and family that you really want standing up there with you that day.

    Post # 12
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    6221 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    If I had to pick any of them, I would say the brother’s girlfriend because they have been together a while and this might be an opportunity to get to know her better.

    I would definitely say NOT the coworker because you two have never hung out outside of work, so your relationship is not likely to continue if you leave your job, and you don’t seem too close to her anyway

    Post # 14
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    6221 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    @kris325:  You definitely wouldn’t be, it’s a nice gesture. Especially if you write her a little note or tell her that you would really like to get to know her better and hope that you can take this time to do that. Since she might also be planning a wedding soon, she might even appreciate some exposure to the wedding world

    Post # 15
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    314 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Maybe you can borrow a couple of mine, I have 7 girls standing up with me and Fiance has 5.. im not crazy about the uneven numbers but i coudnt imagine getting married without my best girls.. i wouldnt ask my Fiance if he could add 2 more random people cause well thats just not right, he picked his best peeps, i picked mine, who cares if they dont match up, one of his guys will have two girls on his arm. so maybe you will feel better if one of your girls gets excorted by two guys up the aisle.. symetry! it all works out… Not to mention how would the girls youre replacing feel about being so easily replaced! not very nice probably 🙁 just a thought

    Post # 16
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    1083 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m in a similar situation. I no longer have a Maid/Matron of Honor due to some personal family issues. . . and I’ll be asking one of my current BM’s to be the new Maid/Matron of Honor. Rather than picking someone to fill in the space, I’m not adding anyone new. I’d rather have the people I want to be up there with me than random people so it makes the bridal party even or look better. 

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