Post # 17
The brothers girlfriend makes the most sense.
I have girls in my wedding I am not close with at all. Dont worry about it, if theyre getting married even better. “they” say in 10 or 20 years you probably wont be talking to most of your BMs anyway
Post # 18
it also depends on what the expenses will be. she might not feel comfortable paying for a dress, shoes, make up, hair, etc (not sure what your bridal party will entail) for someone’s wedding that is not a close friend or family.
Post # 19
I wouldn’t get a ‘replacement’ at all… they would know they’re just filler, and if I were asked last minute as a back-up plan because someone’s Plan A didn’t work out, I might be a little offended. Like, “Hey, you weren’t good enough the first time around, but how about a round 2 draft pick?” No thanks :/
Post # 20
I like the idea of a note.
I posted about adding my dog as a bridesmaid if I don’t choose an actual person. I’ll run both ideas by my fiance when he gets off work and see what he thinks 🙂 Thank you, at the very least you made me feel less pathetic for wanting to ask her 🙂
Post # 21
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Not pathetic at all. I would think twice about the dog because there are a lot of logistics involved. Who is in charge of the dog, how is she getting home from the ceremony, is she coming to the reception, who has to walk her, where will her water be that is out of the way, etc. If you are not in charge of her, do you really want to burden one of your guests with looking after her? As long as you think it through it would probably be okay, but I’d be pissed if I had to watch my friend’s dog instead of enjoying her wedding.
Also, asking your FI’s brother’s girlfriend to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man could be seen as a sign of acceptance to her and get her to open up more. She would probably really appreciate it. And on the other hand, how do you think she would feel, if she is thinking of you guys as future family already, if you picked your dog over her to fill a roll that is usually done by a person? It might be better to have the dog, if you really want to include her, be a flower dog, or ring bearer, etc.
Post # 22
I’ll think it through and ask my fiance which he would prefer.
The ceremony and reception will be outdoors at the same location. My dog is a great dog and wont bark or anything (unless she sees a squirrel which is a possibility) but I do have a lot of thinking to do to see both sides of this. My dog LOVES people and is great with kids but there are a lot of things to consider.
Post # 23
- Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza
Our wedding party isn’t “even” I will be having 5 bridesmaids but he is only having 4 groomsmen. We both knew who we wanted to support us on our big day, which is really what matters.
Post # 24
I’m with the others, none of them. If I had to choose I would go with the brother-in-laws GF!
Post # 25
I said “yes to the dog” earlier, but if I had to pick one I would go for the GF! 🙂 That is, if their relationship is that stable. Perhaps not a bad idea if your Fiance talks to his brother about it first though.
Post # 28
Last night I had a pretty crazy night. My fiance was out playing music and I drank a few too many. Our friends were there and two of the groomsmen. One of the groomsmen was with his girlfriend we’ve known about 3 years now. She’s super nice and we get along well and have a great time when we’re drinking together but don’t really talk outside of group gatherings.
I met another girl last night who is getting married in March. She was friends with the girl mentioned above and we hit it off great and spent the night talking wedding religion and all the in betweens. We had a good time. I really shouldn’t have drank so much though. None the less I had a WONDERFUL time.
So while talking to the two girls I mention that I’m short a bridesmaid now. The girl that I’ve known about years says “You know I’m free and I would love to be a bridesmaid for you!” I responded with a “Really?!” and she and I got all excited and started talking about all of it. We agreed to talk in the morning when we were sober. We emailed back and forth and she’s still really excited and says she will have her measurements to me tonight, when the other girls it’s been months and still nothing.
I’m excited because it will get us hanging out outside of the group which is great because I like her, she’s nice and funny. And I’m still waiting to hear back from the other bridesmaid who is MIA right now. I talked to fiance and if I don’t hear anything back from her I’ll be asking his brothers girlfriend. I really like her too, she’s very nice and we share the same morals and she’s been a part of what’s helped me find my religion again. So part of me is hoping the other friend that hasn’t been much of a bridesmaid at all will take herself out of the equation. While I’d love to have her in the wedding and we’ve been friends for 10 years, she’s being flighty I guess you could call it. Saying she would give me her measurements (the ONLY thing I’m asking the wedding party to do besides show up and buy pink shoes) after months of asking and weeks after we talked about it she still hasn’t.
I just want the girls to be there and to make it somewhat easier by providing the measurements in a timely manner so I don’t have to rush a week before the wedding.
Post # 29
Glad you found a solution…….BUT when you look at your photos 5 or 10 years from now this girl or any other non-significant stand-in will be in them. I know I would hate to have to be constantly reminded of someone that that never really meant that much to me.
Post # 30
- Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano\'s Humble
I was just gonna say have 2 gm walk each girl down. but, you found a solution already.