(Closed) Need help picking bridesmaids last minute!!!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who would you choose for a bridesmaid?

    The best man/FI brothers girlfriend

    The coworker

    A cousin

    Other idea

  • Post # 17
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    641 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    The brothers girlfriend makes the most sense. 

    I have girls in my wedding I am not close with at all.  Dont worry about it, if theyre getting married even better.  “they” say in 10 or 20 years you probably wont be talking to most of your BMs anyway

    Post # 18
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    716 posts
    Busy bee

    it also depends on what the expenses will be.  she might not feel comfortable paying for a dress, shoes, make up, hair, etc (not sure what your bridal party will entail) for someone’s wedding that is not a close friend or family.

    Post # 19
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I wouldn’t get a ‘replacement’ at all… they would know they’re just filler, and if I were asked last minute as a back-up plan because someone’s Plan A didn’t work out, I might be a little offended.  Like, “Hey, you weren’t good enough the first time around, but how about a round 2 draft pick?”  No thanks :/

    Post # 21
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

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    @kris325:  Not pathetic at all. I would think twice about the dog because there are a lot of logistics involved. Who is in charge of the dog, how is she getting home from the ceremony, is she coming to the reception, who has to walk her, where will her water be that is out of the way, etc. If you are not in charge of her, do you really want to burden one of your guests with looking after her? As long as you think it through it would probably be okay, but I’d be pissed if I had to watch my friend’s dog instead of enjoying her wedding. 

    Also, asking your FI’s brother’s girlfriend to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man could be seen as a sign of acceptance to her and get her to open up more. She would probably really appreciate it. And on the other hand, how do you think she would feel, if she is thinking of you guys as future family already, if you picked your dog over her to fill a roll that is usually done by a person? It might be better to have the dog, if you really want to include her, be a flower dog, or ring bearer, etc.

     

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza

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    @kris325:  Our wedding party isn’t “even” I will be having 5 bridesmaids but he is only having 4 groomsmen.  We both knew who we wanted to support us on our big day, which is really what matters.

    Post # 24
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    2997 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’m with the others, none of them.  If I had to choose I would go with the brother-in-laws GF!

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I said “yes to the dog” earlier, but if I had to pick one I would go for the GF! 🙂 That is, if their relationship is that stable. Perhaps not a bad idea if your Fiance talks to his brother about it first though.

    Post # 29
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Glad you found a solution…….BUT when you look at your photos 5 or 10 years from now this girl or any other non-significant stand-in will be in them. I know I would hate to have to be constantly reminded of someone that that never really meant that much to me.

    Post # 30
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    520 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano\'s Humble

    I was just gonna say have 2 gm walk each girl down. but, you found a solution already.

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