- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
I posted a few days ago about my dad being hospitalized and diagnosed with cancer and about how great random strangers and other people have been (http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bad-news-but-good-people-and-one-lousy-doctor) Anyway, thanks so much for all the support and comments. It really helped! The good news is that he was just released last night. Also, there is a new lead doctor on his case (apparently they rotate), so no more Dr. Horrible. It’s great that he’s home, but he’s still really having trouble moving and is on a lot of medication.
Anyway, we’d planned on getting married less than a week from now in Yosemite (about 200 miles from my parents’). Here’s where I need some help! My dad feels horrible about “making” people miss a trip to Yosemite, but of course all our guests totally understand that we should change the plans so that he can be there. Obviously, his health is what matters, not wedding plans. So now we’re trying to figure out a way that guests can come to a ceremony in my parents’ town first, then continue on to Yosemite (many of them have non-refundable hotel reservations). Most are flying into San Francisco airport (which is near my parents’) on Tuesday. So we’re trying to plan a last-minute ceremony and little party Tuesday night so that they can come if they want, then continue on to the park. We can’t get any money back from our planned Yosemite reception, so we’re encouraging everyone who wants to to show up at the scheduled time and eat all the food, cake, and booze that we’ve already paid for (and maybe someone can bring back some cake for us!).
A few of my parents’ friends have very nicely offered their backyards for a wedding on Tuesday, so my question is how do you plan a wedding from scratch in 3 days? It doesn’t have to be anything fancy (our original plans weren’t) and we don’t want to spend too much. Any suggestions? I’m thinking something very casual, probably along the lines of Costco food and beer and picnic tables. We really can’t afford catering or vendors (which is fine. because it’s way too short notice to get anyone anyway). Any suggestions for decorating a backyard or for having a reception cheaply but with some personality? I’m hoping we can get speakers and do some iPod dancing. And since half of the people we invited originally can’t come to a new location or date (it was only going to be about 50 people to begin with), would it be horribly rude to invite new people to the new wedding only 3 days in advance? “Hello, I know you weren’t invited before, but . . . ” There are several people I’d like to invite who all live in town and could probably come, but who we didn’t invite initially because we were limited by the budget and the size of the venue. I don’t want them to think I’m fishing for a present, I’d just like them to come if they can, and I think it’s budgetable considering it will probably be a very cheap reception. How do you politely say, “please come, but don’t bring a gift and don’t be offended that it’s 3 days from now”? Sorry this is so long, but any advice would be greatly appreciated! I’m not too worried about it, I just want my family to be there and I thought the hive may have brilliant suggestions to make it more fun and welcoming for everyone.