(Closed) Need help! post elopement party

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Do others know of ‘elopement’?  To me elopement means just the two of you sneaking off without others knowing and sending out announcements after the fact.  If that’s what you mean by elopement then it’s going to be hard to time sending out invites early enough to give guests time to plan and not announce before hand.  

If you mean destination wedding with just the two of you, but everyone knowing ahead of time … then I’d send out invitations for a reception ahead of time … at least 4 weeks.

I would not do a pot-luck, I’d completely host the party including food and beverages.  YOu can decide whether to make it a relaxed BBQ theme (but pay attention to not having food that’s too messy) or a more formal sit down type reception. 

There’s lots of varying opinion on whether to wear your wedding dress (I wouldn’t), have a first dance (I wouldn’t), and do the other traditional wedding reception events.  I would not – so I would not do favors either.   

Post # 3
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Helper bee

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futurezakany:  It can be whatever you want it to be… and you are the best judge when it comes to your friends, family and the overall feel of the party. My friend had a very small wedding ceremony and then she had a bbq a few months after at a state park… minimal decorations, photos from their big day… very casual and fun. They had catered food from a supermarket with her dad working the grill. Plus a condiment station, potato salad, etc. They also went to costco’s and got a speakers with a mic, so they could play music.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 5 months ago by  njbride1102.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee

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futurezakany:  The reason I questioned it was I wasn’t sure how you were using the word.  The traditional definition of elopement usually involves the word secret.   http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/elope  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elopement_%28marriage%29  http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/elope&nbsp

Whatever you choose to call it is fine, the point was I wasn’t sure if it was in secret and if it was, timing of invitations was difficult.  If it’s not a secret, then you can send invitations as you desire.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m doing the same and honestly have no idea how to handle the whole reception thing. I will be doing it a few months after our “weddingmoon”.

Commenting to follow this thread so hopefully we can both get some answers haha.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

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futurezakany:  Yep.. I think the invite said something along the lines of “surprise we eloped!” And she had a “regrets only” RSVP, meaning if you can’t make it, then let me know, but otherwise, I’ll see you there. You can call it a celebration or a party. Another option is to link the celebration to a holiday like memorial day or labor day so it’s like, come to the bbq and meet the husband!

As far as decorations, you can make really cute paper pom poms out of tissue making and it really looks nice. She also connected her phone to the speakers to play music and people could make speeches or announcements with the mic. She had a wishing well so that people could put cards in. Feel free to think outside the box. My friend had a local ice cream shop drive ice cream truck over and serve sundaes. She also had sunglasses as party favors.

What was really nice is that people wanted to give her gifts or a card even though they weren’t invited to the very very small wedding. I think the bottom line, is don’t get too worried because people are happy for you and want to celebrate with you.

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