(Closed) NEED HELP recognising loved ones that have passed?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I know you said ceremony but Ive seen a short slideshow during receptions.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Here is my hold up with honoring people who have passed at weddings. It brings an element of sadness to everyone, not jsut those who knew the person. I personally think that the best way to honor the person in a cermenoy is to do something that is subtly representative of them. This wast those people who knew the person have that fond moment and those who did not are not compelled to feel sad you on such a joyous day.

here is a great example of what I am writing about:

When my cousin got married she used the phrase “with oceans of love” in the ceremony and on the programs. This was done to honor our grandmother. It was a great touch because those people who knew my granmother knew that is how she always signed her letters to everyone. It was nice to see it there because it made me smile. It made me think about her and how she was there in spirit. It was nice becasue it was not intrusive on the day with any sad thoughts or feelings. It was a great way to have her there with us instead of recognizing the fact that she was not there.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Here is my hold up with honoring people who have passed at weddings. It brings an element of sadness to everyone, not jsut those who knew the person. I personally think that the best way to honor the person in a cermenoy is to do something that is subtly representative of them. This wast those people who knew the person have that fond moment and those who did not are not compelled to feel sad you on such a joyous day.

here is a great example of what I am writing about:

When my cousin got married she used the phrase “with oceans of love” in the ceremony and on the programs. This was done to honor our grandmother. It was a great touch because those people who knew my granmother knew that is how she always signed her letters to everyone. It was nice to see it there because it made me smile. It made me think about her and how she was there in spirit. It was nice becasue it was not intrusive on the day with any sad thoughts or feelings. It was a great way to have her there with us instead of recognizing the fact that she was not there.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am wearing my grandma’s earrings as my something old.  We are also adding an “in loving memory” section in our program listing our deceased loved ones.  I think that this is a great way to both subtley honor her for myself by wearing the earrings, but also still recognize our passed loved ones alongside those that are still with us.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

What about a rose pillow on an honorary chair?  I just saw this today while looking up Sahara Roses, and thought it was beautiful:

 

 


Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My husband and I (and our families) had a lot of disagreement about who would be honored.  Some family members felt strongly about some, and my father (for example) thought the whole idea was silly and didn’t think it was appropriate to honor his parents publicly, simply because the day had a different meaning to him.

My mom & I wanted to honor her mother, so we did a lot of “quiet” things.  We drank champagne before hand off of a tray that my late grandmother made, I wore her bracelet, and there was a poem read that was very significant.  I felt that that was much more meaningful to me and to my mom (and to the people who would recognize it) than making it a public memorial.  Just a suggestion, that it’s ok to keep it quiet and personal. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

We thought that doing a tangible memorial would be a little depressing, so we just had the officiant say a few words before she started the ceremony. It was just something simple like “And we keep in our hearts the loved ones who could not be with us today. etc” I felt like it was enough.

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