Post # 1
Getting married soon and I’m very worried about one of my bridesmaids she seems extremly depressed.
1. found out she had not ordered her dress until 1 month before the wedding and the other girls had to rush and find one for her.
2. During our girls weekend she was acting very strange. Not smiling, not making any conversation, not engaged in any way. She was absent. She is the only one with a frown in photos and empty stares
3. Did not show up to my Bridal shower.
Im worried about how she will act in the wedding, is she going to smile, frown, or be absent . I don’t want to worry about her attitude during my wedding. How do I let her go??
Post # 3
I understand why you’re worried about having her in your wedding, but honestly I really think you should be more concerned about HER. Are you even friends with her? Why don’t you call her and ask how she’s doing? Take her out to lunch or something. Do you know of anything in her personal life that could be causing her to act this way?
If she is seriously depressed, being unceremoniously relieved of bridesmaid duty might make things even worse. If you feel she’s not up to it, obviously that’s your call, but I really think the decent thing to do is to talk to her or spend time with her in low pressure situations and figure out what’s going on. Even if you do ask her to step down, you should make a point of being there for her after the wedding, and perhaps express your concerns to one of her closer friends or her family as well.
Post # 4
@S.H. I couldn’t agree more. I know that our wedding day should be our day, but you have an opportunity to be a good friend now. Clearly she must mean something to you for her to be one of your bridesmaids, so why not try to help her now if she is showing signs of depression?
Post # 5
I have tried to help, I called her and asked what was wrong and she clearly does not want to open up. I contacted a very close friend of hers and she told me that she has been like this for over 6yrs. She just never acted like this with me before until now.