(Closed) Need help! Replace a Bridesmaid

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I understand why you’re worried about having her in your wedding, but honestly I really think you should be more concerned about HER. Are you even friends with her? Why don’t you call her and ask how she’s doing? Take her out to lunch or something. Do you know of anything in her personal life that could be causing her to act this way?

If she is seriously depressed, being unceremoniously relieved of bridesmaid duty might make things even worse. If you feel she’s not up to it, obviously that’s your call, but I really think the decent thing to do is to talk to her or spend time with her in low pressure situations and figure out what’s going on. Even if you do ask her to step down, you should make a point of being there for her after the wedding, and perhaps express your concerns to one of her closer friends or her family as well.

Post # 4
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217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@S.H. I couldn’t agree more.  I know that our wedding day should be our day, but you have an opportunity to be a good friend now. Clearly she must mean something to you for her to be one of your bridesmaids, so why not try to help her now if she is showing signs of depression?  

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