Post # 1
We are working on our RSVP’s and we need a little help with wording. We’ve decided to cut out pretty much all of our cousins to keep numbers down since we are paying for the wedding ourselves. We already have relatives asking where we are having our wedding so they can reserve enough rooms for them and their kids…but their kids are not invited. We are keeping the wedding mainly adults only with a few exceptions…his little brother, our flower girl and ring bearer. We are trying to keep things fair, but still need help with wording our RSVP’s so people “get the hint”. I’ve already decided that each RSVP will have the number of people already written on it, so they can not fill in the blank with their own number, but we’d like there to be a bit more of a nudge for those who might not get it and try to add people anyway. Any advice?
To clarify: A lot of the “kids and cousins” ARE adults. Adding cousins really is the difference between having 100 guests and 250 guests. My Fiance has a very large family.
Post # 3
You can’t print anything on the reply cards. But when they come back to you in the mail, get on the phone with those guests asap and explain that you cannot accommodate children unfortunately.
Post # 4
We wrote on our invites that we were having an adult reception and people got the message. Some people might not like that approach though.
Post # 5
I think you should definitely write something on the cards to the effect of what MissAsB said – otherwise you may have a situation where plane tickets have been bought and hotels reserved for people who arent even coming. “Adult reception” on the cards should be sufficient. We also stated how many seats were reserved for people on each RSVP card, and put a blurb about how our wedding was in an art museum, adult setting, could only accomidate children in the bridal party, we’re so sorry, yada yada yada. Just don’t leave it till after people have already RSVP’d or they will be even more pissed!
Post # 6
We also wrote “adult reception to follow”. I know its considered rude by some, hoping people will get the hint.
Post # 7
The problem with “Adult only reception” is that many of the cousin’s and “kid’s” ARE adults.
Post # 8
Perhaps specifically writing the names of the invited . “Mr. John and Jane Doe” and then go ahead and fill in the number already like you planned. That way that gives then not one, but two hints that it is only the two of them invited, and so forth.
Post # 9
Thanks ktis and everyone else. I think we’ve decided we’ll put the names and numbers so there’s little confusion.
Post # 10
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Smith, 2 seats have been resereved in your honor.
_ of 2 attending. That’s better than _ of _ attending. Once you fill in the number, they’ll get it.