Post # 1
I’ve spent an exhorbitant amount of time finding out everyone’s spouses names, addresses, proper titles and legal first and last names and my spreadsheet is almost complete.
Here are my questions for addressing Save the Dates:
1) For single people in our Wedding Party only, we are inviting them along with a guest to our Wedding. Do we write this on the envelope of the Save the Date to let them know they’ll be invited along with a Guest, or just to them and then add “and Guest” on the formal wedding invitation?
2) How formal is the Addressing for Save the Dates? I’m turning Tommy’s into Thomases and Jerry’s into Gerards… but is this too formal for a Save the Date? Should I wait for the Wedding Invitations to address them this way?
3) Do you address Save the Dates to the Children in the family, too? As in, “Mr. and Mrs. So-and-So and Mr. So-and-So, Jr.? Or just Mr. and Mrs. So-and-So and Family (even if there’s only one child?) or just leave the kids’ names off completely?
This is exhausting!!
Post # 3
1) Save the dates are sent to the person you are invited…so don’t address to guest.
2) They can be as formal or informal as you want them. If you have, say a postcard, nicknames are fine. But if you have very traditional, formal engraved STD’s use full names.
3) For families (assuming you are inviting the whole family) address it to The Bee Family.
Hope this helps! And yes, it is exhausting!
Post # 4
What we’ll be doing is addressing the STD to the person we’re inviting. We’re not letting them know if they can bring a guest/how many. If they ask after they receive it, then we’ll tell them. We don’t want to print up different variations of the STD based upon who can bring a guest. That’ll come with the invites themselves.
As for the formality, I guess that’s up to you. We’re going casual.
I can tell you we’re sending out less Save-The-Date Cards than we will invitations. With the invites, if there are children over 18 still living at home who will be invited, they’ll get their own invite. But, for the Save-The-Date Cards, we’re sending them out to the families as a whole (so, “The Smith Family”, versus, Mary Smith, Joseph Smith, and Mr. and Mrs. John Smith). I hope that makes sense. It just didn’t make sense to send a STD to everyone in the house.
Post # 5
I bucked tradition a bit on this one… no one is invited whom we don’t know their names. That being so, an unmarried couple (and even not living together) will be sent to the primary invitee in this fashion:
Mr. Johnathan Smith
Ms. Jane Doe
Address of John
I know it’s not perfect, but it makes me happy…
Post # 6
@BrooklynWife: I know the proper protocol for addressing invitations, but, since I did not send Save-The-Date Cards I was hesitant to comment. Are you certain about “The Bee Family”? I am asking this, because the outer envelope of an invitation, in the case where children are being invited along with their parents, should be addressed only to the adults. The children’s full names would then go on the inner envelopes only. For example:
Mr. and Mrs. John Patrick Doe
Mr. and Mrs. Doe
Master Patrick David Doe
Miss Jillian Marie Doe
Post # 7
@Brielle: If one is sending a postcard STD, how would the inner and outer envelope addressing work? I’ve always assumed the STD is less formal than the invite, which is why I wouldn’t include the entire family’s names.
Post # 8
@Brielle: What makes this even more complicated for me is I’m not using inner envelopes. We have petalfolds as the inner envelope, but no names will be printed on it. So, I have to put all those names on the Outer Envelope in some sort of acceptable way, lol.
Our Save The Dates are Bookmarks that I made. I am not sending one per person in each family. We’re basically sending one per family. “The Bee Family” also only works if all family members are using the same name. A lot of the time, I’m finding this isn’t the case.
Post # 9
Brielle Yes, “The Bee Family” for informal invites, for everyone in the house—when there is no inner envelope to specify exactly who is invited.
But, if you are sending a STD with an outter an inner envelope than you would just address outside to parents full name
Mr. and Mrs. Francis Bee
Mr. and Mrs. Bee
and Master Patrick David Bee and Miss Jillian Marie Bee
Post # 10
csteen85 True! Differet last names, you have to spell out. All of the rules are nuts.
I had a calligripher (actually they are at the calligripher now!) so I didn’t worry too much…she knows the protocal. My mom wanted totally traditional super proper invites.
also, we had bookmark Save the dates, too!
Post # 11
@csteen85: What I’ve done with different last names is just address the envelope as, for example: Smith/Jones/Miller.