- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2009
Argh! Has anyone else in the Philadelphia Archdiocese experienced difficulty in scheduling their pre-cana course? Here’s my story:
Getting married in Vermont in July 2009. Priest who will be doing our ceremony suggested getting in touch with our local parish in Phila to complete the pre-cana requirement. After reading on local Phila parish website about pre-cana courses and clicking through to Archdiocese website for schedule, was very disappointed with available courses. It appears to me that there doesn’t seem to be enough courses at times
that are convenient to working professionals or graduate students.
Option 1 – Engaged Encounter: Fiance is not Catholic so the Engaged Encounter Weekend Retreat I think would be too much for him not to mention he is a grad student and an entire weekend time committment would be extremely difficult. That leaves us with the meager selection of the 4-evening courses.
Option 2 – Evening Courses (4 evenings): Fiance has meetings for his job on Monday evenings through May and classes on Wednesday and Thursday evenings through April 28 then finals (two weeks). Fiance is also considering taking an internship in Vermont for the summer, which eliminates June courses. This leaves two courses: Tuesday evenings in March in Phila for 4 weeks (best choice) and Tue/Thu evenings in first two weeks of May in Warminster (2nd choice, but not great as during FI’s finals). Warminster is 40 minutes away, at rush hour even further.
Phone the Family Life Office to ask before registering if the March course still has availability. Woman on phone was v short with me and said i "just have to send it in b/c it’s filling up fast." Sent in our $150 and registration immediately for fear of not getting into March course. Turns out March is full and we were assigned the May course, which, yes, was our second choice but not a good option.
Didn’t think about it at the time, but looked up Camden, NJ Archdiocese pre-cana and they have much more reasonable course schedule with several options for the Friday eve/all day Saturday type course that married friends have told us about. Horray! And Camden has online registration that tells immediately which courses are still available. Bonus! Asked local Phila pastor about Camden, but he brushed off question and said to call Phila Family Life and plead case for original March course. Harumph.
Questions for Bees: Has anyone taken pre-cana outside their respective archdiocese? Has anyone had to cancel/change registration for pre-cana? Will Phila Family Life give me a hard time for changing to Camden? Will they give me my $150 back so I can apply to Camden? Why does Phila have so few pre-cana courses and why don’t they have any of the Fri night/Sat day ones?
Am I being unreasonable and not willing to change my schedule for God? Granted most of conflicts are because of FI’s schedule. Am also concerned that if I have to travel for work (not an unreasonable request) that pre-cana mid-week evening courses would have to take precedent. I think work would understand, but given the economy I need to make work a priority too for fear of losing job while Fiance is in school and only one full-time income between us.