(Closed) Need Help! sending out STD

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3518 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Jenbee: Make a wedding website.  I know you don’t want to keep up with one, but it’s a bunch of information for one card, and most websites are free (mine is on mywedding.com).

I wasn’t sure if you were including it, but I don’t think you should include the line: Keep in mind, there are will be no children at the wedding or reception. Also that only those addressed on the envelope are invited to the wedding.

If RSVPs come back with children on them, then address them individually.  People should know better.

Post # 4
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

How about “Adult ceremony and reception”?  We put “Adult reception beings at 7 PM”.  “No children at the wedding” sounds a little harsh 🙂  Typically people know only those on the envelope are invited.  I would just handle questions or extra people on the RSVPs if/when it happens.

Post # 5
3343 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Is there a cut-off date to get the discounted rate?

I would take out “You are able to make reservations any time now, please do so as soon as you can to ensure a room.”  It sounds condescending to me. I would replace it with “Please call before [insert cut-off date] (###)###-#### to reserve your room.

I would also remove “so you get the correct rate” – it’s just not necessary.  Keep it short. 

Post # 6
5517 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

My Advice:

DONT send this :Keep in mind, there are will be no children at the wedding or reception. Also that only those addressed on the envelope are invited to the wedding.

Post # 9
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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I got a couple “can I bring a guest” questions, and my pad answer has been “We would love to have everyone be able to bring a guest, but our venue is really limiting the number of people we can invite.”  Now, that doesn’t necessarily mean we’re running out of room, it means the price of the entrees at the venue is squeezing our budget, limiting the number of people we can invite 😉

I don’t know if a wedding website would even address that well enough.  There’s a lot that goes into those and that info could get lost.  If you want to send a card with it, keep is very simple.  Like, “Adult reception beings at 7 PM at ________ (reception). A block of rooms have been reserved at the _________ (hotel name) and will be held until _____ (hold date).”  It’s your guests responsibility to book the rooms in a timely fashion, not yours 🙂

And just remember, you’ll never please everyone!

Post # 10
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@Jenbee:  I used weddingwire.com   – It took me around a half hour to do our website.  It’s pretty basic.  

Just do the website and add it to your STD’s.   That way you can write more on the website about the hotel and Adult Ceremony and Reception.  

Post # 11
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with PP to remove the lines about kids.

We used the Knot for our website.  It is so simple.  Cut and paste.  Done.  You don’t have to include all the pages they have there either but just the hotel stuff.  I finished ours in May and it went out with the STD.  Haven’t touched it or looked at it since and probably won’t!

Post # 12
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@PollyPlanner:That’s a GREAT idea!  I was having trouble wording that myself.


I am sending out a “more information” card with my STDs directing them to my website with information.  With my invitations I’m sending out an accomodations card that will tell them exactly what to do.  I don’t see the problem sending it with the STDs, though.  Here’s what I said: 


XYZ Hotel
Phone number

“We have blocked hotel rooms for Date 1 and Date 2.  When you call, mention the Bride/Groom Wedding in order to receive a special rate of $xy per night.  When using the Internet to book a room, you can simply use the group code: abcdefg.  If you have any questions, please feel free to ask us.  There is more information available on our website, including information on other hotels in the area.”

Obviously, the last sentence wouldn’t work for you.  Just some thoughts..


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