Post # 1
choosing who to invite is so hard.
my wife and i decided on a small intimate reception.
it was so hard to decide who not to invite
we had some mutual favorites, but the friends list was so hard to cut down..she had more friends than me, so if anything i felt bad for her
we still have to knock it down some
we feel so bad inviting some and not inviting others…we’ve asked some invited friends to not reveal whether or not they were invited..fortunately it hasnt come up that much.
we are a bit shy about receiving calls from friends that have not been invited, embarrassed a bit so we decided to write them an email and note to let them know
im horrible at writing and my wife just didnt have the time.
so one of my buddies found me my new best friend, online. an email writing service that i could dump on.
i just sent them a few sentences of what i wanted to say and told them how i wasnt too sure how to say it and they sent me something back that has worked so far…didnt cost too much either
we are getting married in january, so i have to finish the invites this month…if anyone has any other ideas how to cut down the invite list, please post…im running out of critera….
Post # 3
hmm how small are we talking?
If you REALY need to hack people off I’d say no co-workers (unless they’re super close), no extended relatives you only talk to during the holidays and no other time, and just trim the friends back based on who is and isn’t an important influence on your life. You’re office pal you hang out with every week? keep them. Anyone thats just a friend of a friend? skip em.
We’re only having 18 guests and yeah, it’s tough
Post # 4
@swingrunthrow:your sn makes me think of track : ) so random. Anyways, i agree with the previous poster about trimming co workers. Unless they are your lunch-buddy and you hang out on weekends then dont feel bad about cutting your boss, his second wife, that guy in the cube next to you, the new girl who just started…you get the picture : ) . After that ide say cut your parents invites whom you dont know well. for example: my mom wants to invite some “family friends” but the truth of the matter is that me and my fiance dont even really know them. They get the axe second. AFterf that comes friends or you could let your friends come but limit the invite to one (they cant bring a guest). This is just how im personally doing things because me and FH realize that we are gonna have to cut some people probably : (. Good luck!!