- 8 years ago
Hi ladies! I’m here seeking the advice of my fellow waiting bees.
A small amount of background:
My man and I have been dating for almost 2.5 years. We’ve talked marriage, and I’ve been assured that a proposal will be coming within the next 6-8 months. I live in Ohio and he just finished his PhD and got a job in Vancouver, so we’re doing the long distance thing for a year while I finish my masters.
Before he moved, we had a talk and I told him I wouldn’t move to be with him unless we were engaged. He assured me that he would never ask me to do that, and that he intended for us to be engaged by the time I moved. He also said he didn’t like talking about the details of the engagement too much because he wants it to be a big surprise and as he said, “I believe that every woman should have an exciting story to tell about how they got engaged.”
I’m fine and comfortable with all of this (even though I hate the waiting) but the thing is we’ve never gone to look at rings. I know the proposal is coming, but I really think it’s not ridiculous for me to want to have some input into what my future engagement ring will look like. I’ve been waiting and waiting for him to suggest we look together, but nothing has come of it.
Right now, I am here in Vancouver for a week long visit. I’m waiting to start the christmas challenge until I get home, because I want to see if I can get him to talk about some stuff while I am here. I am also thinking that since we’re going to be out and about this weekend that I want to try to get up the nerve and suggest we look at rings together. I think it’s time…and I want him to know what stuff I like. He’s very traditional in this sense, so that’s why I’ve been waiting for him to bring it up.
So what do you think bees? Have any of you been the ones to suggest ring shopping? How did you do it, and how did it go?