(Closed) Need help, wedding plans have stalled, overwhelmed.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

All you REALLY need to be married is a marriage license and a Justics of the Peace.  Everything else is just fluff.  Could you guys do a laid back, casual backyard wedding and serve lunch (something like catered BBQ) or even get married at a non-meal time and host a cake and punch reception?

Then you can do whatever you want/can afford for a honeymoon and not worry about marriage paperwork from overseas or legalities or anything like that.

Post # 5
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Some places offer “elopement” packages for about 15-20 people, at bed and breakfast type places or restaurants, where you can have a very small wedding. (I was unsuccessful in convincing my Fiance to go for one of these lol, but they looked really nice & low-stress!) Flowers, dress, & photographer are must-haves no matter what size wedding you’re having, so no need for your Fiance to feel left out in those areas!

Venue is the first decision you’re going to have to make, so instead of tackling everything…focus on venue, that’ll determine a lot of other decisions. Your Fiance may just feel overwhelmed and not really know exactly what she wants. Find a few options you’d be ok with and set up some appointments. Kudos to you for taking the initiative!

As for honeymoon, by the time the wedding’s over you won’t even care where you’re going, as long it’s a few days away with your new spouse!

Post # 7
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Have you asked her what she wants? Maybe set a date for her & her mom to go dress shopping to get her into the mood to start planning?


Post # 9
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

The cruise idea sound promising. I agree no mater what u decide you need flowers, pics and of course the dress. She needs to start shopping for her dress it’s the best place to start. She can even look on here. Just remember it’s about the 2 of you.

Post # 10
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Well, she can always go with her friends, or whoever makes her comfortable. She could even go with you if you wanted! Whoever she is comfortable around. All it’s going to take if for her to find a dress she’s in love with and it should kick her butt into gear!

Normally, you would start with picking a date & a venue, but since you are both pretty overwhelmed, I would stay start with something fun first. Picking out venues CAN be fun, but it can ber overwhelming as well.

Flipping through pictures & books of weddings will help her get an idea of things that are out there.

Are you looking to have something elegant or something more casual? Or just don’t have any idea at all?!

Post # 12
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Obviously, there might be some people who can’t make it. Much of my Fiances family is over 2,000 miles away – we understand if they can’t make it, but we’ll still be sending them an invite.

I would maybe take a look at differnt options in your area. Would you like to be married in a church? You don’t have to be, you can get married just about anywhere you want. Do you want a large reception with dinner & dancing? This could limit the amount of places you could have it at, [for instance, if you want dancing, you probably couldn’t have your reception at your favorite restauraunt]. There are also hotels with ballrooms, halls, and even barns that can be renteded out!

Post # 13
355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

A lot of resorts do free or inexpensive weddings for small groups if you stay a certain amount of time. For example, you might pay $1000 for the officiant, basic decorations (like her bouquet and one arrangement), and private dinner for 15 people. Then you can add on pretty much anything for a fee…

A lot of them even have free elopement packages. You could have a small party when you get home.

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