- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
So here is the deal. I have my bridal party all picked out and ready to go, but I have this feeling one of the bridesmaids doesn’t liked me, and hasn’t for a while. I asked her to be in my wedding because she was my best friend when I started dating my now fiance, who she also was friends with, and everything seemed fine until about 8 months ago, when it felt like she started avoiding me. I tried not to read a lot into it because she is stressed with school, but she was always cancelling last minute for anything we had going on together (always too tired or sick or something).
Anyways, I asked her to be my bridesmaid if she wanted to be, and she said she did, which made me happy because I thought that would mean we could reconnect. Instead she only invites me to do things with her if my fiance is invited to come too (if it’s a big group thing), has made no effort to be in the wedding let alone be my friend, and she will not meet up with me alone (everytime I want to talk she is always busy or she cancels last minute), and sometimes is rude to me (we see each other at school). I think she has done this to people before who she doesn’t like, and I’m just confused both because I don’t know what I did wrong, and also, I don’t want to have a bridesmaid who doesn’t respect me.
What do I do? We have so many mutual friends, my fiance and another bridesmaid included, and she used to be so awesome! Now I’m worried that she is only being in my wedding because of her friendship with my fiance and not because of her friendship with me (note: my fiance does not care if she is in the wedding or not, it was my idea to ask her, not his). How do I talk to her if she refuses to talk to me?