Need help with baby sleeping!

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Helper bee

Hi! I am a FTM my baby turned 4 weeks old yesterday. I also have a rock and play in our room next to our bed. We tried to have her sleep in it from the day we got home from the hospital. The first week she would nurse fall asleep at the breast and I would put her in the rock and play and just like your son in a matter of minutes awake and fussy. I would put her back on the breast and the cycle continued. I was only getting about 3 hours of sleep a day and not until 6am as she would finally go down and stay down at that time for a few hours. One night I was so exhausted and falling asleep nursin her I decided to lay down and nurse her. We both fell asleep for a few hours. Afterward I talked to friends and researched bed sharing. Though it is a hot topic and up for debate a lot many people bed share with infants. They say it is the only way to survive the early days. As long as you make the bed a safe environment it is fine to do if you are comfortable with that. I suggest researching it more thoroughly and talking to your friends and making a decision that you are comfortable with an makes sense for you and your family.  I was completely against bed sharing and thought it was a complete no-no until it was one of the only things that has worked for us and helped me survive this past month. My baby sleeps great each night only really waking for feedings and just seems so happy and content to be close and in bed with us. Honestly I love it. Falling asleep and waking up with my baby is one of the most natural things. Good luck do what is best for you!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I highly recommend the book “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child”.

I struggled with my daughter and sleep and that book was a miracle book!!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

emeraldbee :  I’m 17 weeks pregnant and have just bought this book on ebay (super cheap!) upon your recommendation so thank you. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Do you swaddle? I hear a lot of people saying their babies hate being swaddled and I’m sure it’s true in some cases, but I think the vast majority of babies benefit from it, even if they fight it. They tend to startle themselves awake when not swaddled. This doesn’t happen when they are on their stomach or in your arms. I could never get a really good swaddle, so we rely on swaddle sacks by Halo and SwaddleMe.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

UK-bee :  That’s great!! Sleep for kids is different than adults and I was cluesless about that. I hope it’s helpful for you!

Post # 7
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Busy bee

mrsm42712 :  I’ll second MrsJet and say look into safe bedsharing. If you decide it isn’t for you after researching it, so be it, but there are ways to be totally safe while bedsharing, and many people find it is the best way for mom and baby to get the most sleep. Other than that, I’m thinking make sure you burp the baby (you can do it mid-feed since your baby falls asleep at the boob), and swaddling should help.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Get a woombie. Seriously, it’s a miracle device!!!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If your child likes to sleep with his arms out get the love to dream swaddle.  My child loved to sleep a la super man pose and hated to be swaddled but the dream to sleep swaddle was perfect for him.  Other things I did was to lay an old shirt on his bassinet whenever he wasn’t using it so that my s sent would permeate his mattress and make it smell like me.

keep in mind there are lots of spurts the first few months so  sometimes you just have to hangs in there until they grow out of it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

mrsm42712 :  He might be going through a mental leap where he needs comfort and to be held more than usual around now. There is nothing wrong with this nor is he naughty or broken, babies need to be held as much as they need milk, sleep or a clean diaper. Bedsharing when practised safely is a great help (sometimes my baby would sleep on my chest as I slept in a reclined chair), as is babywearing and I give another vote for the Woombie. With the strong zipper even my uber strong baby couldn’t busy out of it and it helped her sleep longer! Good luck!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

mrsm42712 :  I hate to say it, but my son is 12 weeks old, and despite the fact that I’ve always been dead set against bed sharing (for us, not for others!) due to my husband being a super deep sleeper who also sometimes thrashes around, our son has been sleeping in my arms in bed for the past four weeks. His sleep regression started around 7 weeks, and it took me a week before I caved and just brought him into bed with me.

It’s the best sleep I’ve gotten since he was born, because when he does wake to feed, I can just stick a boob in his mouth without moving either of us around too much!

I definitely maintain that mom-awareness in bed though… my husband went to fling his arm over me & I stopped it in mid air (baby was where his fist would have landed). I don’t even know how I did it, as I was “asleep” at the time. The protective maternal instinct is strong, apparently.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

mrsm42712 :  No babies yet (32 weeks with twins) but I have read some things on sleep, routines and schedule to prepare (if that is even possible…lol) and from the books I have read sounds like your baby is used to fall asleep on you and gets freaked out being put down on his own. The general advice book gave was to try and keep baby awake while feeding (talking, stroking his head, cheek, etc) and put baby down to sleep drowsy but awake (also swaddled if baby likes it) so that he learns to fall asleep on his own, and not on mom or while nursing. It also said to establish a clear day night differential – keep noise levels up during the day, turn on lights, engage the baby in activities, but come evening time, lights out, only whisper, have a sleep routine – bath, feed, pjs, white noise machine, song, etc. If baby becomes fussy after being put down, give a pacifier, pat his back, comfort him but not to pick him up. The general idea is to teach baby not to rely on mom/bad rocking or holding him to sleep.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m kind of in the do what works for you category.  I nursed/rocked my son to sleep and sometimes that would take a while and sometimes it didn’t.  He is two and a half now and still does better some days than others.  I would say bedtime takes about 20-30 minutes including potty, brush teeth, read books and laying there a few minutes.  

I know this doesn’t work for everyone, but just my experience…

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Eight weeks is usually the beginning of a Leap (according to the Wonder Weeks) – it can occur between 7.5-10weeks and can last for a few days or a week. So he might be more particular as well about how he sleeps. Mine likes to sleep on her side and is much more content than on her back. We use to swaddle, but she can roll over.

Signals of the 2nd Leap include:

  • Baby wants to be entertained more
  • Takes longer for baby to be at ease
  • Wants to eat all day long/comfort nursing more
  • Craves physical contact
  • Cries more easily 
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