(Closed) Need help with body issues

posted 10 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

The only way to get comfortable with your body is to spend time thinking good things about it instead of thinking how fat you are and how ugly your body is.

Obviously your Fiance loves your body!

Post # 4
5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I know how you feel. I’m 5′ and about 115 lbs. At my best, I’m closer to 105. I miss that! I’ve noticed that regardless of the number on the scale, I feel much better when I’m exercising almost every day. You might try doing positive things rather than thinking about how you feel fat, that always works for me. 

Post # 5
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m 5’2″ and fluctuate between 115 – 120. I don’t think I’ve been 105 since like middle school!! I love my body when its at about 115 and would love to lose 5 more, but realize that as long as I’m eating healthy and exercising, I’m perfectly okay with being 115!!

Post # 6
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You are completely adorable by the way!

Post # 7
2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

A LOT of medications cause weight gain… it’s just a fact of life and one that’s kind of ignored by our society when we demonize people for gaining weight.

The most important thing is to think about yourself beyond your body, and your body beyond how much space it does (or doesn’t) take up.  Think about it in terms of health – not just the issues you’re having to overcome with your health, but also with all the things you’re lucky to have functioning correctly.

I can’t decide if this is a mean exercise or not, but sometimes I try looking at other people with the same level of criticism I put on myself.  It’s really jarring to see how someone I find really attractive starts looking weird if I try to find fault with each individual feature (as I do with myself) rather than seeing them as an overall person (as I normally do with others).  This has helped me learn to stop breaking myself into pieces so I can find something wrong with each individual one.

Another thing that’s helped is becoming aware of the parts of my body I may not like but cannot change.  I often get insecure about my stomach, but part of that is that my waist is high and my torso long.  Those are things I can’t change.  Realizing that some things are out of my control – that I can’t will myself a smaller frame or longer legs – has helped me come to grips with the things that maybe, if I devoted my entire life and gave up my health to them, I could.

Also – stop worrying about weight.  Yours is neither low enough nor high enough to be causing you serious health issues and is as much a reflection of meds as habits, so it only makes you less healthy to worry about.  Also – weight is a very bad number to focus on because it doesn’t differentiate between healthy and unhealthy mass or your natural build.  Not that you should focus on anything beyond doing what makes you feel good (eating foods that nourish you and enough of them, exercising but not to the point of discomfort, adopting a positive body image, being nice to yourself), but definitely not on something that 1) doesn’t reflect health well and 2) is mostly out of your control at this point.  It’d be like obsessing over your height.

Post # 8
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think you are super cute the way you are!  If you are feeling down though about your weight do something nice for JUST YOU monthly 🙂 (pedicures, lunch date with the girls, new shoes, get your hair done, massage, etc etc)!!!!!

Post # 10
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t want to minimize the pain and discomfort of IC in any way–believe me, I know all about it. For 75 days I didn’t sleep through an entire night. What I’m wondering is if you have tried physical therapy for it. For me, that was enough to get me off the meds. I fully realize that everyone is different, but I do want to mention it as an option if you haven’t been offered it yet. The other thing is counseling. Have you done that? Feeling like your body isn’t working “right” can be really crushing to one’s self-esteem and daily life. Best of luck to you!

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