Post # 1
i have a bridesmaid who decided that she was going to be my maid of honor, granted she has known me the longest, so i made her co maid of honor with my real choice. she complains about everything from the type of dress to the wedding colors (apparently i shouldnt have black as my wedding color) i have tried to talk to her. but i am running out of options on what to do with her. i was ready to kick her out of the wedding party after she a 32 year old woman called me up to tell me that one of my other bridesmaids is a “slut” because the other bridesmaid was flirting with a guy she liked. in the same conversation she expressed how upset she was that the other co maid of honor will be walking with the only single groomsman. i am at my wits end with this woman and i just dont know what to do. she has been a good friend in the past but ever since i got engaged she has gone kinda crazy. help please
Post # 3
I would tell her that the wedding is enough stress without her comments. She either needs to watch her tongue, or step down into a less critical role.
I say that. I can’t tell my mom the same.
Post # 4
When you talked to her, did you ask her if she really wanted to be in your wedding party? If I were you, I would have one more talk with her and lay out all of the ground rules and let her know, in no uncertain terms, that if she wants to be in your wedding party, she will have to have a better attitude. If she gets a negative attitude with you, you can just tell her right then and there that you are sorry, but under the circumstances, you are going to have to let her go, and also let her know that if she wants to come as a guest, she is more than welcome to, but you have a certain way that you want things and if she can’t or won’t support you with your decisions that it would be best for both of you, if she wasn’t part of your wedding party.
Post # 5
@noritake22: yes i have asked her if she wants to be in the wedding, and she said yes. this saturday all the bridesmaids aside from my nieces are going shopping for dresses, im going to take this chance to talk to this woman one more time before she purchases a dress.