Post # 1
Okay… so I asked my friend to be one of my bridesmaids because we have been friends for a while. she has been one of the only friends that i have but shortly after i asked her, she has made no effort to contact me. she was all excited and wondering when we were going to look for dresses but bailed on us at the last second when we went. i really don’t want to tell her i don’t want her to be one of my bridesmaids any more but i don’t know what else to do… any suggestions?
Post # 3
You have a while before your wedding, is the only reason you don’t want her to be your bridesmaid because she couldn’t go dress shopping?
Post # 4
Did she bail on your dress shopping or the bm dresses? Did she tell you why? Honestly, I think you are jumping the gun on kicking her out. Unless this becomes a pattern of behavior or she refuses to pay for her bm dress I don’t think you have a problem.
Post # 5
Maybe you can look at what made you ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in the first place? That might help you see past the one blow-off. And, maybe you can get together with her and see if that feeling of why you picked her is still there? And, if it’s not still there, then you can think about your next move with her.
Post # 6
although for you your wedding is a daily thought im wondering if your Bridesmaid or Best Man is thinking its so far away that shes working on getting thru the holiday period right now – doesnt mean shes not wanting to be a part of your wedding but unless you have experienced planning a wedding i think most people dont realize how consuming it can be
i suggest you wait until at least after the holiday period before you make a decision
Post # 7
I dont think thats enough of a reason to ask her to step down.. not everyone else in the bridal party will be as excited as you, especially with so many months to go.. as it gets closer to the date everyones excitement will build up more
Post # 8
Thanks everyone. I don’t want to kick her to the side, but I just don’t know how it will work if she keeps ignoring me like this… She can sit around all day saying how bored she is on facebook but she can’t even message me back? I don’t understand it. She was the first friend I had when I moved to this town and we have been close ever since up until this.
Post # 9
Try talking to her directly and asking her what happened.