(Closed) need help with bridesmaid problem

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

You have a while before your wedding, is the only reason you don’t want her to be your bridesmaid because she couldn’t go dress shopping?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Did she bail on your dress shopping or the bm dresses? Did she tell you why? Honestly, I think you are jumping the gun on kicking her out. Unless this becomes a pattern of behavior or she refuses to pay for her bm dress I don’t think you have a problem.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Maybe you can look at what made you ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in the first place?  That might help you see past the one blow-off.  And, maybe you can get together with her and see if that feeling of why you picked her is still there?  And, if it’s not still there, then you can think about your next move with her.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

although for you your wedding is a daily thought im wondering if your Bridesmaid or Best Man is thinking its so far away that shes working on getting thru the holiday period right now – doesnt mean shes not wanting to be a part of your wedding but unless you have experienced planning a wedding i think most people dont realize how consuming it can be

i suggest you wait until at least after the holiday period before you make a decision

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think thats enough of a reason to ask her to step down.. not everyone else in the bridal party will be as excited as you, especially with so many months to go.. as it gets closer to the date everyones excitement will build up more

Post # 9
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Try talking to her directly and asking her what happened.

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