Post # 1
Ok as background, my fiance’s parents are divorced, but each is remarried and they all are civil/friendly with each other.
I’m trying to figure out how to get us all down the aisle. We are having a Jewish ceremony, where traditionally both of the groom’s parents walk him down the aisle, and both of the bride’s parents walk her down the aisle. My fiance wants his stepparents to be included in the walk down the aisle, but we aren’t sure the best way to do it.
Our rabbi suggested having the stepmom walk down first and wait at the end of the aisle, then the stepdad walk down and wait at the end of the aisle, then my fiance with both his parents walk…they will meet the stepparents and join so they all walk up to the chuppah (canopy we stand under during ceremony) together. I wonder if this could be awkward though, and my fiance kind of wants his parents to be able to walk with their respective spouses.
Any other thoughts on how this could be handled? Thank you!!!!
Post # 3
I guess if everyone is comfortable with that, then it would be ok.
I personally would not want to be one of the step-parents and have to walk down the aisle alone. I like the idea of the couples walking down together and then the groom. The couples can wait at the end of the aisle so everyone walks up to the chuppah together.
Post # 4
But then my fiance would have to walk down the aisle alone, instead of with his parents. 🙁 I wish the aisle were wide enough that all 5 of them could walk together at once!!!
Any other thoughts please???
Post # 5
I guess you are getting married in a synagogue or else you could change the width of the aisle? Hmm..this is a tough one. Is he REALLY set on having his parents walk him down the aisle?? I know that my FIs parents want to walk him down because of tradition but Fiance could care less about it. Make sure it is what your Fiance wants! If he really wants his parents to walk him down maybe you could have him and his parents walking and then directly behind them have each of their spouses. Obviously the step mom would be on dads side and step dad would be on moms side. It might be a little awkward, but its the only other thing I can think of. I like the idea of the step parents walking and then meeting them up there, but it doesnt solve the whole problem. Sorry I hope you figure it out!
Post # 6
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I like the rabbi’s suggestion. Even though he’d like each parent to walk with their spouse, it makes most sense for the groom to be escorted by both of his biological parents (in this case), especially since everyone is civil. It honors everybody without slighting either his mom or dad.
Post # 7
What if his bio parents walk him down and their respective spouses follow immediately behind? Then nobody is waiting up front awkwardly, and every one gets down the aisle at one time.
Post # 8
No, we’re actually not getting married in a synagogue, but rather at a hotel, so I suppose we could TRY to make sure the aisle is wide enough for all 5 of them…it just might be kind of weird.
Thanks for the feedback.
Post # 9
Ok I have another idea. What is the step-parents weren’t really a part of the processional. they would be seated in the front row, and then when the processional was ready to start, they would get up to stand at the end of the aisle and wait for the groom, who is escorted down the aisle by his biological parents, and then they all meet and walk to the chuppah together.