- 7 years ago
hey all! I have a major problem 🙁 Firstly let me say, I am a Hindu, Indian 22 (will be 23 on jan 4th) year old woman and I am engaged to a wonderful, caring, loving, funny, overall amazing guy who is also of the same faith and culture. I just happen to have major ‘in-laws’ problems… FI’s mother and I have never formally met.. But she hates the fact that I have a daughter. She says that by him marrying me or even being with me brings shame to his family because I had a child out of wedlock and that its not his child (even though he is amazing with her, says and shows that he loves her like his own and has never had a problem with it). I am really upset because his mother has basically backed Fiance into a corner and now he doesn’t speak to any of his family members, even ones that he used to be extremely close to. I hate that because of me my Fiance has lost many of his close relationships that I know he cherished. We are inviting everyone, including his family, to our upcoming wedding but I know they wont show. He will have no one sitting on his side and my family will be utterly confused. Weddings in our culture are very family oriented with centuries old traditions that are passed down through the older generations at the wedding. I just don’t know what I can do, if anything. The only real communication I have had with his mother was when she was texting me disgusting things (I should have kept my legs closed…I will never be a part of her family….I should have slapped you when I saw you….. etc, the usual right?) and it breaks my heart to see Fiance talk to his parents because its really harsh and abrupt. His mom yells and rants and his dad, like a good Indian man, supports his wife. With this ignorance instilled from birth do you ladies think there is anything I can do to break the generational gap or are we doomed to having the only contact with his family be provocative?