Post # 1
So..i’m the maid of honor in an upcoming wedding but the problem is i dont really know the bride to well. im the grooms cousin and was asked to be the moh because she didnt have any family that would do it. im not sure what to put in the speech. the only thing i have is the introduction.
Post # 2
In that case just keep it short and sweet. There’s no need for a long drawn out speech that no one really wants to listen to anyway. Congratulate them on their wedding, welcome her to your family, and wish them a lifetime of happiness.
Post # 3
That is tough? How far out from the wedding are you? Can you schedule some hang time with the two of them? In your situation I’d try to talk about them as a couple. Good luck, sounds un-fun
Post # 4
If I were in your shoes I would just encourage everyone to raise their glass for the happy couple and probaly recite the Irish wedding blessing or some generic toast. Keep it short and sweet.
Post # 5
I think molokoa had a good idea in not trying to write the whole thing from scratch. Maybe find a not-too-long poem that suits them, and mostly read that?
Post # 6
thanks guys. i have about a month until the wedding and i have been talking to my cousin to see if he can give me some background on their relationship but i think im gonna stick with all of your advice and keep it short and sweet.
Post # 7
SHort and sweet! Talk about how you met her and how special their relationship is….how happy she makes him!
Post # 8
levismommy512 : This helped me write my Maid/Matron of Honor speech for my BFF’s wedding. It’s a great template to start with.
-If you don’t really have any stories, you can talk about how you saw that they were a good match during your first interaction with the two of them as a couple.
-You can also talk about what a profound effect she has had on our cousin and how she has changed him in positive ways and how he talks about her with love in his eyes.
-Feel free to be a little vague and don’t worry if something you’re saying is cliche. Examples: “When you met X/when you told me about X/when I first saw you together, you lit up and I knew he was the one for you” and “You’ve always supported one another and brought out the best in each other.”
-Don’t be shy about asking her and your cousin for a couple of cute stories from their relationship. You’re all adults after all, and they must know that you don’t know each other that well.
-I think you can make a sweet speech pretty easily.
-As far as length, I definitely don’t think you’ll have a problem going too long. However, I also think going too short can be a problem. I would aim for the speech to be around 3 minutes.
Post # 9
Don’t stress, no one likes long speeches! Just say how happy you are for them and other generic (but nice!) sentiments, a poem or blessing would fill some time, end with a toast! Maybe you could ask them each why they love the other one/what their first impressions were (or something) to see if they come up with any cute stories you could use. It’s nice of you to do this 🙂
Post # 10
Well I wouldn’t even bother about the backgound stuff, you would only be repeating someone else’s ideas anyway if you hardly know her .
I agree with pps, just do a short generic speech, welcoming her and wishing them both love and happiness etc. Nobody likes long detailed personal speeches anyway , guests will bless you for it.