Post # 1
We are having a backyard wedding (with music) with around 30 people (15-20 cars). The wedding is from 3pm to ? (probably 12ish).
We were planning on dropping a bottle of wine at the three immediate neighbors homes with a note apologizing for any inconvenience/noise and thanking them. Hopefully this will avoid any complaints about noise etc.
I’m having a little trouble with how to phrase this.
Has anyone done this/how did it work out?
Any input on the text for the note would be much appreciated
Post # 3
I think it would be best if you just talked to them in person rather than leaving a note. That way you give them an opportunity to voice any concerns so that you can address them. The more proactive approach you take in letting your neighbors know what’s going on, the less likely they are to cause a problem for you.
Post # 4
I think that’s really considerate of you!
I would say something like,
“Next weekend, we’ll be having a small marriage celebration in our backyard. We realise that the increased traffic, cars parked in the street, and noise for the evening will be an inconvenience to you, and wanted to thank you in advance for your understanding. As a gesture of our appreciation, please accept this bottle of wine.”
Post # 5
I agree with Moose1209. Talking face to face is definitely the way to go…and still bring the wine
Post # 6
It’s great that you are being proactive.
I would really consider ending the festivities earlier, though. Being loud and having loud music after 10pm is pushing it, and I’d definitely try to have it all over by 11 (you can go to a more appropriate place for an afterparty). I sometimes have to work at 5am on Sundays, and no matter how much I like my neighbors, and no matter how much wine they buy me, if they are being loud enough to keep me awake after 11pm I’ll calling the police.
Post # 7
I also think speaking with your neighbors is best instead of a note. I agree with nmsoonerbride, just because I used to work really early in the morning. But, if it’s a one time event; I would be nicer towards the situation.
I think daydreamer put it nicely if they aren’t home or hard to get ahold of 😀
Post # 8
It is nice of you to consider your neighbors, but I also think in person would be better. Also, about the noise, you may want to check with your city/county about any noise ordinanes. In our neighborhood, it is 10PM.
Post # 9
You can’t possibly be seriously. This isn’t something you leave a NOTE for.
I know you are busy right now, but in this instance you need to go SPEAK with them about what is going on. If they have concerns address them then and there.
Post # 10
I think I’d also give them your phone number should they feel the noise gets above what is tolerable. That would be the nice thing to do. But be prepared for a police visit because even a block away people may call. Best wishes!
Post # 11
I posted this on your other thread, but I agree wtih pp’s
I don’t think you should just drop a note and a bottle of wine without actually speaking to these neighbors. Even if you’re not close with your neighbors a knock on the door and a pleasant smile would go much further in getting their support for the party. Drop the bottle of wine and a maybe attach a note that says something like “thank you for being such great neighbors” after you’ve spoken to them and gotten their approval.
Post # 12
I agree with the others who said to speak to them in person, because I think the main potential problem is the late night reception. In our neighborhood, after 10pm means quiet. I would check on that for sure.
Post # 13
My parents use to have HUGE parties all the time, the best way to make sure the people next door dont complain is to invite them! But you should call or go over.
I would also check with your city/ town on what time the noise ordance (sp) is in effect
Post # 14
Thanks for the feedback. Sorry my original post probably could have been more clearly worded. We don’t intend to drop a note and bottle of wine and run. We were going to drop by before the wedding with a bottle of wine and a note attached and speak with the neighbors. Thanks!
Post # 15
I agree with others who have said address them personally. Also, keep in mind that if music is loud enough, it can impact more than just a few neighbors–something to remember. Be sure to check local ordinances.
Post # 16
Thanks for all the advice. I wanted to follow up on this thread. Got married last Saturday (awesome!) and notified the neighbors on Friday. They were all very happy for us and appreciated the gesture and gift. Some even let cars park in the drive way. I gave my cell phone number to them all so if any issues came up they could get in touch instead of having to call the police or walk down. I also contacted the town selectmen to follow up on any noise ordinances. I’m happy to report that there were no complaints or issues!! I think the face to face and gift as a sign of respecting the neighborhood went along way. I would recommend this to anyone having a similar type of event. Thanks!