(Closed) Need help with Perspective. Not a rant, looking for advice.

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m confused why there are choices for the dates for hair and makeup?  Seems like the morning of the wedding would be the only option, unless you’re having them do a trial? 

Post # 4
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

I guess I don’t understand the need for a meet & greet. Chances are these people will never meet again after the wedding, so they don’t really need to know one another before then. If I’m missing something, please let me know.

As for the info you still need to get to them, call them (altho you still have plenty of time to get rehearsal info out before July–as a matter of fact, I would want to wait till closer to the date so no one forgets).

Are you asking the girls to have a hair & make-up trial? Are you paying for both that and the actual day of hair and make-up? That’s the only reason I could see that you need for them to get together for that?

I guess more info on why they need to be together to talk about hair and make-up would help me here.

Post # 5
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Ms.Shamrock: I had a meet and greet and it really helped on the day of the wedding, for people to know eachother. I put out a date and only one person couldn’t make it so we had it without them. 

As far as getting together to do wedding related things that “have” to get done. You need to be forecful. That’s it. That’s not being a jerk that’s doing what you need to get done.

Post # 8
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park

While it’s true that being in person makes communication easier, it can be really difficult with schedules. Especially if the girls are in school. Why don’t you open a group email/Facebook message, and outline the details there? That’s what my bm’s did for organizing the bachelorette and other important need-to-know details. In my case the bm’s were spread all across Texas, and the one time we were able to get together before the wedding was for a bachelorette/crafting weekend.

I hope that helps! I’m sure the summer will be easier on their schedules to find a time to all get together.

Post # 9
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

If they’re so busy, maybe it’d be easiest to just cancel the meet-and-greet.

My girls were all in different cities, so I did an email meet-and-greet – a few sentences about each girl, how I knew them, etc.

Actually, I did pretty much everything by email with them. 🙂 Sometimes it was actually really nice, because I had a written record of everything I had (or hadn’t) told them, so I could remember what was going on, haha.

Post # 10
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

There isn’t really a reason they all need to get together. All of these questions can just as easily be answered by email. If they don’t have time for a meet & greet, they just don’t. Move on.

Send them an email with all of your questions, and they will respond. If they don’t, it’s on them to figure out what’s going on. Don’t make this more stressful for you than it needs to be 🙂

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