- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
My wedding was this past Sunday and was an intimate family ceremony of 90 people. We invited about 20 friends, 10 of whom were mine. Three of my friends became unabashedly drunk, one of them told my grandfather to “screw himself” when Pops went over to suggest he slow down (evidentially this bf of my friend had been chugging straight from a wine bottle; he fell off the AA wagon two years ago), and the other two were groping my family. None of these friends act like this normally (well the bf does, but I had promises they’d keep him in check), and it’s like they turned because of open bar and wedding and totally did not read the atmosphere.
My two problems:
1) I have zero interest in intereacting with this guy. He insulted my family, made an ass of himself at my wedding, and there were other incidents of immaturity during the weekend. How do I make sure I don’t remove his nuts the next time I see him? He’s not the type to apologize.
2) We had four alcohol gifts go missing. My uncle saw one of our guests take one with them, but we are unsure of the other three. The guest he saw take it was one of my drunk friends.
I can’t stress enough what a lovely laid-back wedding we had. We spent over $20k, which is a heck of a lot for us, and we told these people they were there by special invitation since it was family only. They were well aware of the expectations of their behavior. How do I approach them in the future? Can I address the fact that we’re certain they took at least one of my wedding gifts? I’ve waited four days to address it because I wanted to cool off, but this is really bothering me and I would appreciate some hindsight/advice.