Need Help with Relationship

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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754 posts
Busy bee

All that other stuff doesn’t matter. He won’t even call you his gf, he’s unemployed and wants you to move in to pay his bills? Boy bye. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

ashmar :  He sounds like a loser, I’m not shocked that divorce was his fault.

He wants you to be his sugar momma, but won’t even call you his girlfriend? Refuses to stop playing video games while on a phone call (rude)? Unemployed? Talks about his ex wife a lot?

Seriously, Move on, stop wasting your time with this guy.

And regarding the dog thing, it’s not normal, unless it’s a service animal.

Post # 6
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177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2020 - Ireland

I’m sorry, but there is nothing to save here, especially not for a short term, long distance relationship. Homedude sucks. 

Post # 8
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2909 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

ashmar :  Holy shit, it’s been a whole year of this? Please, please please end it now and stop wasting your time! 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

A whole year and you’re just his friend? F that noise. Then you add all the other stuff and yeah, just no. Don’t waste your time and energy on someone who has made it clear you are just a convenience. 

Post # 11
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743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

ashmar :  Introducing children to new people is difficult. Coming from someone whose mother ran guys through the house frequently, I think he’s doing the right thing there. I introduced my ex of three years to my brother when he was 10 and now he’s confused, and it actually has halted me introducing them to my current partner of two years.

However, he sounds immature in every other way possible. He is not boyfriend material.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

I wouldn’t waste any more time on someone that won’t even call you his girlfriend after a year, but feels comfortable talking about you moving in to pay his bills. 

And what does that even mean, “we’ll be a thing one day”!? What’s a thing? when’s one day? 

Plus with all the other little details he just sounds stubborn, petulant and self involved. No thankyou. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

ashmar :  “I’m trying to hard to pinpoint where the relationship went wrong.”

Well, for one, it’s not a relationship. He won’t call you his girlfriend and says maybe one day things will change. 

This guy sounds terrible. Like a 15 year old trapped in a 30 year old’s body. Soooo not worth your time. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

Girl. RUN.

Post # 15
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Maybe he’s going through a somewhat difficult phase now not having to work. But I also think it is a bit odd that he doesn’t want to call you his girlfriend and it’s so disrespectful to play a videogame while talking to you on the phone. You should be enough important for him to want to listen for some minutes a day.

Do you think it is possible that he was so traumatized by his divorce that he’s really afraid to get serious? If that’s the case, he also needs to realize that it’s not fair be with you, to hold you at an arm’s length.

But if I were you, I wouldn’t be able to put up with him talking so much about her all the time and even saying that you sound like her. He needs to grow up and know with whom he has to shut up about his ex and where it is appropiate to mention her.

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