Post # 1
So my issue……my issue, not anyone else’s, but I can not stop thinking about it!!!!
My Fiance was married 10 years ago, short marriage, has a child from previous marriage who lives with us full time, we rent our place form his X-in-laws….weird hu?! He is very close to his x-in-laws they had his back when FI’s wife (there daughter) cheated on him, let him start making payment to buy there property, love taking the kid for weekend, invite us to dinner, always cool people. (I am somewhat close….very civil, nice, respectful, uncomfortable BUT x-mother in-law still always brings up her daughter…any chance she gets, making her sound so great when in all actualality she’s a dead beat, serious dead beat) BUT unfortunately 2 months ago x-father in-law passed away, leaving x-mother in-law….. Who I am super worried will invite her daughter, Fiance x-wife, my arch enemy to the wedding as her guest
How do I word a RSVP card so there is NO way she will bring a VERY (VERY!!!) un-welcomed guest with her?
Her son is one of the groomsmen, and her daughter in law is one of my bridesmaids…so it’s not like she won’t know anyone….am I crazy to be worried about this? Would she do that? Why am I picturing this happening and my day seriously coming to a screeching halt?!?!?!
Post # 3
Put this on the RSVP cards. “_ seats have been reserved in your honor” And for her, you’d insert a 1. That combined with the envelope being addressed only to her (no “and guest”) should get accross the hint.
But if you’re planning to gvie her a guest, there really is nothing you can do to keep her from bringing the ex-wife. It would be her guest to select, no matter who she may choose.
Post # 4
This is an awkward situation, when sending the invite make sure to only write Mrs. X on the envelope, no guest. Heck, make her a special invite that says, Dear Mrs. X, YOU are invited to our wedding…….etc.
Make it clear that the card is addressed to one person, that being her.
Post # 5
I got an invitation once that had an insert that said something along the lines of we are excited to share are day with you and you will be surrounded by many friends and a family so please just come by yourself, you won’t be alone. They said it much more poetic but I thought it was a nice way to say dont bring a guest and they were right I knew a lot of people at the wedding and didn’t need to bring an unwelcomed or unknown guests
Post # 6
I wouldn’t depend on the invite to get the message across, your FH needs to tell his x-mom-in-law that it would be inappropriate to have her daughter, his ex-wife there.