- 7 years ago
I have a really weird situation to deal with and I am dreading the consequences of picking these two girls as bridesmaids despite fully believing that individually they should both be standing with me on my wedding day.
Luckily, I did not have to choose one for maid of honor because my wonderful sister is taking the job and she deserves it, it is not just a choice of convenience.
Let’s call one friend Sally, Sally has been around since high school and we grew much closer towards the end of high school and throughout college. She went to a semester of college and then came home and I was going to a local college. We have drifted over the last year or so but I still consider her one of my closest friends
My other friend is Julie. I met her my sophmore year of highschool through my fiance and his friend(Brent) who was kindof dating her. She is now one of my fiance’s best friends and mine as well. She is now dating said friend that I met her through.
The situation actually revolves around Brent who despite everything is also our friend. What had happened was he was basically dating both of these girls at the same time, Julie knew that he was dating others, Sally did not. In fact, Sally and him started out knowing this was not an exclusive relationship but he said he would tell her if he started seeing someone else, he did not do this. I did not agree with this relationship in the first place. When I met Julie it was after this whole ordeal and after Sally stopped seeing Brent. It was not until later that I realized timelines and the situation. Julie is now in a relationship with Brent.
This as a background makes for awkward relationships between Julie and Sally and they are not friends and do not see each other very often. What makes it worse is that at a party Julie was drunk and said something about Sally getting her life together before jumping into a relationship. I agree that it was inappropriate for Julie to say. I knew that Sally would take it badly and years later she believes that Julie hates her because she made this comment. This is not the case.
I don’t know what to do, this whole situation is messed up. How are these girls going to be bridesmaids together?