(Closed) Need help wording dress code…

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My thought is:

The term ‘invited’ confused me a bit. Maybe just call it black tie? or semi-formal?

The part about the shoes is helpful.  I would appreciate that you put that part. 

The part that says when you can take off your jacket I think is being way too directive.  Maybe communicate to the key men you know exactly what you have told us, and they will set the tone for others. 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with @cvbee, ‘black tie invited’ just sounds confusing (i’ve never heard it called ‘invited’). I would definitely use the term ‘black tie’,. and also include a helpful note about the shoes. Maybe its expecting too much, but I think people know that its kind of mandatory to wear suit jackets during a ceremony (no matter the location/ temp) and then once its over and the reception starts they can get a little more comfortable.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I think you should just stick to “black tie event” or something close to that. The word “invite”, IMO doesn’t seem to have relevance to the wording. Also, I agree that men are usually accustomed to wearing suit jackets during the ceremony, however if it is too warm, requiring them to wear something sweltering is…. not very nice haha.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

To me, the term black tie implies a that tuxes are desired/required for male guests.  I very well may be wrong….but that’s kind of what I always thought.  I like the part about the shoes being lawn appropriate.  I think semi-formal or even formal attire requested is more easily understood than black tie. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@NJFRegan:I think if you’re only looking for them to wear dark suits then “Black tie” might be the wrong road.  I know when I hear that I assume tuxedo.  Maybe say “Formal” instead?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
NOUN
1. 
black bow tie: a black bow tie worn on formal occasions
2. 

formal style of dress for men: a formal style in men’s dress that includes a black bow tie and a tuxedo

The use of “Black tie” indicates a tuxedo.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Black Tie = tuxes or die. Black Tie invited = please wear a tux but you a nice black suit works as well. And then there is Black Tie optional = you don’t HAVE to wear a tux, guys will mostly be in black siuts but if you want to wear a tux you won’t be out of place. Hope that helps ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

omgoodness sorry my post was gigantic! I tried (failed) to edit the spacing… ughhh

OP: I didn’t think you weren’t being nice, just saying if I were a man I wouldn’t want to sweat of butt off in a tux in 80 degree weather haha ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Maybe say “Black tie encouraged” with your note about the shoes! That would clear things up I think. ๐Ÿ™‚

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