(Closed) Need help wording Registry Information

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Mentioning the registry on the invitation tends to be frowned upon. Will you have a website? A simple “We are registered at Bed, Bath and Beyond as well as ______”

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

The registries can be through word of mouth then

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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asbhowardeng:  It is considered poor etiquette to make any mention of gifts on, or with the invitation.

You can mention it on your website  ” ___ and ___ are registered at BB&B and honeyfund.com”

For the guests who are not tech savvy, a honeymoon fund is going to be a challenge for them to access anyway, so the card won’t help much. Those people are likely to give cash, if the registry is completed.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I just think this is one of those things that doesn’t need mentioning. Most adults will do one of two things if a registry is bought out 1. Ring the couple and ask them straight up if they need anything else or 2. Pop some cash in a card. 

There will be a few people who will gift off registry but they are the people that will do this regardless of some sentence asking for cash.

I will also never understand couples who pay someone to collect money for them which is what all those honeymoon websites do. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 5 months ago by  j_jaye.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

You will get a lot of people telling you that it is rude, tacky and gift grabby to include registry information with the invitation. However, I think this can be regional. Where I am from, it is not uncommon to receive an extra insert with the invitation suite regarding a registry, wishing well or even requests for donations to be made to charity in lieu of gifts. Wedding websites are also not the done thing where I am from, so there is no other way to share this information. I’ve never thought it was rude, tacky or gift grabby when I’ve received a registry card with an invitation.

As for wording, are you having an actual registery for the honeymoon or are you just wanting to let people know you would appreciate money for your honeymoon? If you’re having a registry, say something like “we are registered at BB&B and [honeymoon registry]”. If you’re not, say something like “we are registered at BB&B. Alternatively, we would also appreciate donations towards our honeymoon in X location.”

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

What about a cute little poem? I came up with it on the spot, so it’s not flawless. I can help you more if you actually want to do something like this.

 

“We already share a home,

and we have most things we need.

Since we only need a few upgrades,

a full registry would be nothing but greed.

For those little odds and ends,

a registry we did create.

If there is nothing to suit your taste,

your contribution to our honeymoon would be just great!

 

Jack and Jill are registered at Bed Bath and Beyond and also have a Honeyfund.”

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Agreed. Add an insert with other pertinant info like hotel blocks, website and reigstry. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Cute poems do not make it any better.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I don’t think you need to say anything. Give your nearest and dearest the registry info and they’ll share it as people inquire. They can also add… “They’re also saving for their honeymoon”. Or put on a wedding website. When your registry is completed people will give checks/cash most likely anyway, no asking required. And no chunk taken out by the website.

Its considered rude to include on the invite because it reads like an invoice to embed it amongst all the essential info. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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Horseradish:  while I did not include registry info in mine, as I felt weird about it, my mom told me I should have. It’s all a matter of taste and personal preference. OP came here for help on how to include it, not your judgment. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I guess it’s a know your guests kind of thing, some may love the cute poem.  I cringe.  Obviously opinions vary. 

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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andiebear91:  That’s the problem though. It’s not a matter of taste and personal preference. If it’s a matter of taste, and we’re talking about good taste, then it’s a matter of etiquette and etiquette is clear on this point.

It really doesn’t matter how many other people do the wrong thing where you live. There is no arguing with the fact that it is rude to indicate to your guests that you expect wedding gifts.

This is a forum where brides help brides. Brides who truly don’t know that something they are planning is rude, need to be able to hear that feedback.

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asbhowardeng:  Please do some more research before you decide to do this. Ignoring all the correct advice only to latch onto a suggestion to word it in the form of a cringeworthy poem, will not serve you well.

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