Post # 1
My FH and I have been living together for some time now and have the majority of everything we need. We did make a registry for BB&B with things that we do need updated (towels, dishes, vacuum, kitchen supplies, bedrooms sets). There are about 44 items on the registry but most could be bought together. We will have around 110 guests. We don’t want to just put random items on just to take up more room so everyone that wants to can have opitions. What we really want to do is have our main registry for our honeymoon. Can anyone find a way to word this in a formal way? I’m really struggling.
This is basically point I want to get across, but in a better way:
“We are registered at BB&B but there is not alot on there. Our registry will be picked though fast but we do have another regisrty and that’s for our honeymoon. We would be thankful for any gift but your presence is truely enough.”
I had a hard time just writing that! I am not sure how to word that what we have on our registry is everything we acutally need and if they want to buy us a gift and they see our registry is basically gone, they have another option that would be equally apperiated, if not more. I hope atleast one of you guys understand where I am trying to go with this! (to be really really blunt, we need everything thats on our registry and hope it does get bought up fast and have money for our honeymoon as well. FH is in the Army and when we moved in together while he was gone for a year so I had to buy everything from scratch and most of it is really really cheap (goodwill cheap). So we are hoping to atleast get some nice things. A couple weeks after our wedding he leaves again for a year (hes gone now until a week before our wedding) so we are really hoping to go on a honeymoon for one last time together. Felt the need to explain myself because I feel like this post made us come across as greedy for gifts! :p)
Anyway! there will be a small card in with the invitation with details about our registry so it’s not going to be anything big. If anyone can help me with wording this, I would apperiate it!
I should add
My family is expecting all the details to be in the invitation. I will have it on our wedding website with a direct link to the registry. But the slip that will go in the invite will just have details about the registry for my family that’s not tech savvy.
Post # 2
Mentioning the registry on the invitation tends to be frowned upon. Will you have a website? A simple “We are registered at Bed, Bath and Beyond as well as ______”
Post # 3
Our families are not very tech savvy and requested everything to be all in one place. I did make a wedding website for the guests that are familiar with computers.
Post # 4
The registries can be through word of mouth then
Post # 5
It is considered poor etiquette to make any mention of gifts on, or with the invitation.
You can mention it on your website ” ___ and ___ are registered at BB&B and honeyfund.com”
For the guests who are not tech savvy, a honeymoon fund is going to be a challenge for them to access anyway, so the card won’t help much. Those people are likely to give cash, if the registry is completed.
Post # 6
I just think this is one of those things that doesn’t need mentioning. Most adults will do one of two things if a registry is bought out 1. Ring the couple and ask them straight up if they need anything else or 2. Pop some cash in a card.
There will be a few people who will gift off registry but they are the people that will do this regardless of some sentence asking for cash.
I will also never understand couples who pay someone to collect money for them which is what all those honeymoon websites do.
Post # 7
You will get a lot of people telling you that it is rude, tacky and gift grabby to include registry information with the invitation. However, I think this can be regional. Where I am from, it is not uncommon to receive an extra insert with the invitation suite regarding a registry, wishing well or even requests for donations to be made to charity in lieu of gifts. Wedding websites are also not the done thing where I am from, so there is no other way to share this information. I’ve never thought it was rude, tacky or gift grabby when I’ve received a registry card with an invitation.
As for wording, are you having an actual registery for the honeymoon or are you just wanting to let people know you would appreciate money for your honeymoon? If you’re having a registry, say something like “we are registered at BB&B and [honeymoon registry]”. If you’re not, say something like “we are registered at BB&B. Alternatively, we would also appreciate donations towards our honeymoon in X location.”
Post # 8
What about a cute little poem? I came up with it on the spot, so it’s not flawless. I can help you more if you actually want to do something like this.
“We already share a home,
and we have most things we need.
Since we only need a few upgrades,
a full registry would be nothing but greed.
For those little odds and ends,
a registry we did create.
If there is nothing to suit your taste,
your contribution to our honeymoon would be just great!
Jack and Jill are registered at Bed Bath and Beyond and also have a Honeyfund.”
Post # 9
Agreed. Add an insert with other pertinant info like hotel blocks, website and reigstry.
Post # 10
Cute poems do not make it any better.
Post # 11
I don’t think you need to say anything. Give your nearest and dearest the registry info and they’ll share it as people inquire. They can also add… “They’re also saving for their honeymoon”. Or put on a wedding website. When your registry is completed people will give checks/cash most likely anyway, no asking required. And no chunk taken out by the website.
Its considered rude to include on the invite because it reads like an invoice to embed it amongst all the essential info.
Post # 12
That is true! I’ve always thought you include it because every wedding invite I have recieved had registry information with it! I never thought it was rude. And all my family is expecting it as well. Wedding websites haven’t been around for very long!
I love it! I might just use something like that! Thank you!
Post # 13
while I did not include registry info in mine, as I felt weird about it, my mom told me I should have. It’s all a matter of taste and personal preference. OP came here for help on how to include it, not your judgment.
Post # 14
I guess it’s a know your guests kind of thing, some may love the cute poem. I cringe. Obviously opinions vary.
Post # 15
That’s the problem though. It’s not a matter of taste and personal preference. If it’s a matter of taste, and we’re talking about good taste, then it’s a matter of etiquette and etiquette is clear on this point.
It really doesn’t matter how many other people do the wrong thing where you live. There is no arguing with the fact that it is rude to indicate to your guests that you expect wedding gifts.
This is a forum where brides help brides. Brides who truly don’t know that something they are planning is rude, need to be able to hear that feedback.
Please do some more research before you decide to do this. Ignoring all the correct advice only to latch onto a suggestion to word it in the form of a cringeworthy poem, will not serve you well.