Post # 16
rosey1739 : LOL! I totally did this with my sister the other day because I lent her some cash and she told me she’d pay me next time she saw me, but we both forgot about it. We have that kind of relationship though. She didn’t even know the song, which made it even better! Haha
Post # 17
valencia247 : HAHAH! That’s hilarious..
Post # 18
cherryfox22 : I’m surprised you expect the money back when you know how dire her financial situation is. Not to say you’re being selfish or mean-spirited–money doesn’t grow on trees for any of us. But if she can barely pay her actual bills then reimbursing you will be her bottom priority, honorable soul or not. I think a reminder text will only serve to embarass her.
Pat yourself on the back for your spontaneous act of generosity towards a stranger and leave it be. You might want to speak to whoever you report to about making it more clear to people visiting the organization where they can and can’t park.
Post # 19
Can the organization you were volunteering for cover it? It doesn’t sound as if she’s in a position to pay you $198.
Post # 20
cherryfox22 : First you did a really nice thing, congratulations. But rule number 1 of working/volunteering with people who have low socio-economic status/homeless, do not lend clients money or anything of value. If someone complains about not having money for the little important things then if you are feeling generous buy them for them (like nappies or food) but never ever hand over money.
This wasn’t even a case of being beyond her control, she willfully parked illegally and got towed.
By all means text or call her but it is highly unlikely that you will ever see that money again.
Post # 21
My father always said “Never loan what you wouldn’t give.” Words to live by. Let it go.
Post # 22
beethree : Please do not suggest that the OP ask the orgainisation she volunteers for. It is not their job to pay for the OP’s lapse in judgement. If one of my volunteers came to me with a story like this they would be on notice because you are not supposed to do stuff like this. Lending large amounts of money to clients who are in financial struggle shows that whilst you may be compassionate and nice you are probably not suited to the volunteer position because you are too much of a soft touch.
Post # 23
Thank you so much for the replies everyone! We talked to it over, and my boyfriend told me it was my decision. I decided that I’m not going to text her, and just make it a gift.
To answer a couple questions, the organization owner didn’t know what happened, I mentioned how her car got towed and how she got it back, but that was it. (I didn’t think it was appropriate, and also because the volunteer organization asked me to buy the cupcakes and pizza with my own money, and said they’d reimburse me sometime, but I said I couldn’t do it financially- I didn’t feel comfortable with it, nor do I buy nonvegan food, so the volunteer coordinator dropped off gift cards for pizza and the cupcakes before I arrived)
It was also at an offsite private venue (like a kids play place).
The mother also had a parking ticket the day before the party too.
Post # 24
Send a very straightforward message as the pp suggested. However I also agree that you won’t get it back, sorry!
ETA: just saw update, good on you OP, you sound like a nice person.
Post # 25
I do not think making it a gift is a great idea. It’s not like you have disposable income if you had to apply for a FAFSA. She needs to pay it back, even if it is just half of it.
And one more thing: you should not be paying for your boyfriend’s classes unless, again, you have disposable income.
If the mom is getting lots of parking tickets, she must not be reading road signs right.
Post # 26
ellsiepig : You are probably right, but I’m just going to leave it be. Also, he is the one who works (full time), I don’t because I’m in school full time taking 16 credits. He pays all the bills, buys all the groceries, etc. right now. He’s taking one foreign language class right now (for fun/to learn the language to improve his resume), and since I get extra back that I don’t use and just save for the next semester (because I buy used books) we were just planning on taking the money out of the refund, rather than his paycheck, as we had to pay for taxes this year, so it took some out of our savings, along with vet bills for our dog.
Post # 27
The PP gave some good insight to the loan issue. I would consider telling the whole story to the organization’s leadership. It might be worthwhile for them to add something to the volunteer training about how to respond in these situations. Were you the only volunteer that day? It also seems like it would be helpful to have someone more senior with you closing up since it was your first experience.
Post # 28
She is homeless… I would STRONGLY recommend giving that money as a gift. To you it’s only $200. To her, this could be the difference between getting groceries or not.
***edit*** Just saw your update that you decided to give it as a gift. Good on you 😊
Post # 29
You may eventually have to chalk the $198 up to experience. But before that, a text or email is better, in case anything legal ever comes up. You might not want to go to small claims court right now, but for some reasons we don’t know about, having something in writing is better. To show the loan was a loan and not a gift.
She isn’t a good friend of yours, right? And you did her a tremendous favor. Just be matter of fact in the message. Just the facts, and when might I expect a payment on my loan?
Post # 30
I think you are doing the right thing. And you sound very sweet.
Maybe text her to say she doesn’t have to worry about it and its a gift. She may be freaking out on how to pay you back. But I am not sure if this will open the flood gates for her to think its ok to ask you for money…