(Closed) Need help woth no contact

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I feel for you because I’ve sent emails like that before.

Before I go on, did your SO leave you because of a medical condition?

If so, please just let the jerk go. You deserve far better.

If not, if there’s more to it, you can’t make him love you. I’m sorry because I know that’s hard to hear. Don’t run after him. I’m a firm believer that if he states something like you will only ever be just friends, then you should dissapear entirely because I’m pretty sure he knows he broke your heart.

Stay strong.

Post # 5
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes, it will be VERY difficult, but as you already know, the BEST thing for both of you.  Here are some ‘tips’, if it helps you at all:

* Write a million more emails, or letters, but never send them.  It will help you vent your feelings or thoughts without ever actually reaching out. 

* Every time you get the urge to call, text, or write, ask yourself why,  What is the point of me doing this??  In searching for the answer, I hope the urge goes away.

* Make a list of those in your life who YOU can call, vent to, make small talk with, and reach out to them instead.   I know they may not be the people you actually want to be communicating with, but still a great distraction.

* Vent on this website.

In time, it will get easier 🙂  Stay strong!!! 

Post # 7
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Sunflower–girl: I’m glad to hear you are better!

You sent the email. Now wait. I completely understand feeling  the need to write him because like I said, I have done this before too.

But now, try as best as you might to not contact him again. It will be a long hard wait but if he dosen’t reply at all…you have your answer.

I am hoping it works out for the best for you.

Post # 8
3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve done this before, also. Just to get my feelings out one last time. I then started a journal and wrote more letters, but they never were sent b/c they were in my journal. I also deleted the phone number, so if he called, I could answer, but I couldn’t call him. In time, if he does not respond and is serious about not being together, your sadness will fade. In the meantime, write as many un-sent letters as you want…and do things that make you happy.

Post # 10
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Deleting the texts is a good idea.  You might want to delete the phone number(s) as well.  That way he can only contact you.  When you type those emails to vent like OUqal0004 suggested, do it in a Word document, not in an email.  That way it doesn’t accidentally get sent.  

Obviously you know the saying…

If you love something, Set it free.   If it comes back, it’s yours, If it doesn’t, it never was.  


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