(Closed) Need Help…please!

posted 9 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
1149 posts
Bumble bee

I think your plan to ask them for a contract or you have to book someone else is a good one but frankly, I’d be a bit concerned about even using them at this point since you’ve followed up with them so much already, to no avail.   How can you be assured they will treat your actual event with more urgency / attention than this?  Most vendors are anxious to get to contract because that helps guarantee their future income (at least in part). 


If you feel like you really want to use them I’d reach out to them and say, “Look, I have ANOTHER job for you but if I don’t get that contract you’ll be losing out on both events.”  Maybe more sweetly worded than that  Wink but you get the gist.


I’m so sorry this is happening to you!  Needless stress….I hope it gets resolved soon!

Post # 4
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think it’s “getting nasty” to let them know that if you don’t get a contract you’ll be making other plans.  You need to have some kind of confirmation that they are going to provide the agreed upon services! 

 beIt sounds like they either don’t really want to do it or just aren’t taking your business seriously b/c you’re a family friend.  Personally, I think they should take a family friend’s business even MORE seriously than just a regular customer, but oh well.

You don’t have to be rude about it, you can just matter-of-factly say: Haven’t heard from you, we need to confirm and get a contract for your services. Please get the contract to me or we are going to go another way, hope all is well.

Don’t risk these major services on a fear of being rude when they’re the ones being rude to you.  Good luck! 

Post # 7
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Vendors who don’t respond when you’re trying to PAY them make me VERY nervous.  You need to be firm but pleasant (since they’re friends of the family).  Politely remind them that you are a customer just like everyone else. 

At this point, I would seriously look into some non-friendors.  These people are unreliable and are not taking this contract seriously.  If they get upset, they’ll get over it.  It’s not worth walking on eggshells just to avoid hurting a friend of the family who is treating you poorly on your wedding (or any day!).  If you’re worried about your family being upset by you going with other vendors, just explain the situation to them.  You’ve been diligent; you’ve done your job.  It’s the DJ/photog who has not.  I think that will be clear to any reasonable person. 

If you want to give them another chance though, I suggest you get firm.  Send them an email and say something along the lines of how you have a looooooong to-do list and you really want to get this aspect of the wedding checked off that list.  Let them know that you have rec’d contracts from all of your other vendors & that you’ve given yourself a deadline of X date to have all the rest of the contracts, including theirs. Or, another way to do it – if they’re friends of YOUR family, tell them that your FI’s family is getting anxious and has set up apptmnts with & rec’d contracts from other DJs, but you realllly want to go with them, so please get the contract in ASAP.  Vice versa if they’re friends of FI’s family – blame your family.  😉 

Good luck!

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