Need honest opinion…wwyd?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: If I were you, I would choose

    Diamond E-Ring

    Simulant Diamond E-Ring

  • Post # 32
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    Helper bee

    I’d go with a lab created white sapphire. They are a real gem rather than an imitation – the mineral content is correct for a sapphire – but they are way way cheaper and they look like suepr clear and bright diamonds!

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

    I have a lab diamond.  Best of both worlds?

    Post # 34
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

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    watsonatlast :  So

    I have a moissy. I love it. It’s sparkly AF and catches light in a way that just mesmerizes me.. I find the whole diamond industrial complex unsupportable and downright kooky. As others have said, they have no inhernet worth, just the most successful marketing campaign of all time.

    That being said.

    If you would be hoping people believe your stone is a diamond – get one. For people who have assigned that “value” to having a diamond rather than just having a beautiful stone, you’ll never be happy with anything else. It will always feel like a compromise, and you’ll regret having settled for less than what you wanted. 

    I am firmly in the camp that a smaller/lab grown/second hand diamond is ALWAYS better for people who care about having a genuine diamond. Knowing you have the “real” thing outweighs any practical or logical argument to the contrary. It’s an emotional purchase – and that’s perfectly okay – don’t try to talk yourself out of getting what you really want. Just find a better way to get it.

    Vintage jewelers are a good place to start. Also, check craigslist. Seriously. People sell their diamond jewlery for a fraction of the cost of retail all the time; this, when they discover it wasn’t the “investment” it’s made out to be. Even if you don’t like the setting, you can always strip a peice for it’s stones and set it in something brand new for yourself. Just insist they meet you at the jeweler who can verify the authenticity of the stone; for your own safety and assurance you are getting what you are paying for. 

    As a side note, in my experience white sapphires are NOT a good diamond alternative. Though they are a genuine precious gem, like a diamond, they do NOT sparkle or read the same way. They are much duller than either a diamond or moissy and again – if you are hoping to have a stone that reads as a diamond, that’s what you should get. 

    Post # 35
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2019 - City, State

    I prefer diamonds over anything else, but I have not seen a moissanite in person. They’re sturdy, beautiful, timeless, and classic. I can’t wait for my diamond e-ring!

    Post # 36
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    Helper bee

    It depends on the type of stimulate. Some / most are cheap, easily broken or worn out over time. In this case, a different gem would be a good idea as well. My e-ring is a lab created diamond. It’s a real diamond created in a lab instead of out of a mine. It has all the chemical makeup of a real diamond and will last forever but was less than half the cost of a mined diamond of the same carat. Also, it doesnt matter how cheap it is, any woman would go nuts if her e-ring was lost because it has deep sentimental meaning.

    Post # 37
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    Helper bee

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    watsonatlast :  yes lab grown diamonds will have value down the line. You bought it for less so it will be worth less than a mine diamond obviously but if it being a family heirloom is your goal then hopefully your kid doesnt sell it.

    Post # 38
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2006

    I’m getting an upgrade set and doing moissanite but plan on swapping them out with lab diamonds eventually. I’ve done a ton of research and Amora Gem is my recommendation for a round. They’re hard to come by and they don’t restock often, but Jonathan at August Vintage is custom cutting and you’d get it in a few weeks. MoCo is cutting a new oval but it hasn’t launched on their site yet so you’d have to email them. I wouldn’t give them my money though because of bad business ethics, personally. I think Jonathan is cutting an ideal oval now but I can’t remember if it’s diamonds or moissanite. He’s great to work with too. 

    Amora Gems are moissanite. I think a PP was thinking of the Asha (coated CZ) as not being durable. And Better Than Diamond isn’t going out of business, but their site makes you think that! They’re always out of inventory. It’s really frustrating. 

    ETA: I can’t justify the price for natural diamonds (maybe a second hand one I could wrap my brain around) but lab created appeal to me. To me it’s an ethical happy medium. Brilliant Earth is a great option but August Vintage is cutting them now too, or will be soon. I swear I’m not affiliated with him, I just love his customer service and honesty 😊

    Post # 39
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2019

    I was in a similar situation when deciding on my e-ring. Orginially I started looking for a diamond and was pretty set on getting one. I stumbled across moissanite via Instagram & after doing the research I was sold. While we are pretty well off financily, I just couldn’t bring myself to spend the money on something that doesn’t hold it’s value in resale, sentimental value is different.

    I am oh so happy that I went with moissanite. My ring is gorgeous and I feel great wearing it (for similar reasons as PPs). I am also happy that I still have money for decorating/remodeling on our house! Which was more important to me.  

    Post # 40
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

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    watsonatlast :  If the only reason you want a real diamond is to pass it down as an heirloom, it’s probably not worth it. If you genuinely prefer the Amora gem, get that!

    Your kids may not even like diamonds. In fact, there is a good chance by the time they’re getting engaged diamonds will have gone completely off trend anyways, so your heirloom will just be sitting in a jewellery box collecting dust while they go out and buy a ring/stone they personally like.

    Post # 41
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

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    hickoryhills :  I also have a lab diamond. I love it!!!

    Post # 42
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

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    sboom :  Me too!  I love my stone.  FH and I talked about the “decreased value” dilemma, but we both realized that as a consumer, NO diamond holds value if you try to sell it back, natural or not.  We’d rather spend less and have something just as beautiful (and ethical), especially since we don’t ever intend on trying to sell it back anywhere.  If anything, I would just repurpose it to another piece of jewelry if I were to upgrade or something.

    Post # 43
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2019

     I was going through the same dilemma. Actually we bought a Moissanite and still have it to return it because then we ended up buying a real diamond through ebay. At first we considered buying a Moissainate that was $1300 and then we bought one for $600 and then I decided to just get a real diamond ( I was trying to get the moissainate but I kept questioning myself and figured if I was second guessing myself is because deep down inside I wanted the real diamond). Money was also a factor. 

    Anyways, my diamond is beautiful and  is a 1 ct and we paid $1400 ( just got it appraissed is over $3k).  We did get the engagement diamond ring “used” but to me it doesn’t matter because the ring will be changed anyways. If you look into used diamond rings you will find better deals and as an article I read about used diamond rings said, “You will never know if the diamond ring you bought at the fancy jewelry store is used because it might had been a return”. Remember you can also grab that diamond and put it in a brand new wedding ring.  Goodluck and look at your options for cheap diamonds before you consider moissainte. We found a real diamond within our budget. 

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