(Closed) Need ideas for including 13yo half brother in wedding!!!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
6215 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

wow, if that date is correct, you don’t have much time! Could you add a jr bridesmaid to your side and add him as a jr groomsman to his? My jr bridesmaid wore a dress that was the same color, but that she picked out herself, so it wasn’t even any work for me. You can see her on the left in this picture- she’s my 16 year old step sister whom we really wanted to include. She actually did escort our 5 year old brother down the aisle so that he wouldn’t chicken out.

Post # 5
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Sugarbee711:  How about Head Usher?  Really, ushering is not that hard and there can be an adult standing by incase he gets nervous.  Let him decide where to seat people during the cermony, to escort people in and to “command” all the other ushers.

I think most adult men (and women for that matter, too) would give the young man his due.

Post # 7
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Have him AND your son be ring bearers. 

I had 3 ring bearers. They were 8, 10, and 14. Honestly, they were like a “ring entarage”  (Spelling?) ha.

and they liked all walking together, also.


If you don’t want that, then have him do a reading. Not a religious sentimental one with words he doesnt know from the bible, maybe a more neutral-poem or something that would be age appropriate πŸ™‚

Post # 8
7736 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Sugarbee711:  I agree with usher – but also dress him in the same suit/tux as the groomsmen.  That adds a bit more honour/prestige to the role. I’ve been to a couple of weddings which did this; and in fact in one case it was a boy about 13, the bride’s son.

Post # 9
1081 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Sugarbee711:  Are you doing any kind of ceremony (like a sand ceremony, candles, ring warming, etc??)? Maybe he could he have some part in that… like lighting the two candles for a unity candle ceremony, or bringing up the individual containers of sand for you and your hubby for a sand ceremony, or for a ring warming he could be the one who delivers the rings to the audience and then returns them to you after the blessings?

We did a tree planting ceremony. I LOVED it.. it was perfect! But if you did a tree planting ceremony, his little brother could bring up each of the important items – bring up the trowel to scoop the dirt and the watering can to water the sapling. Usually, tree planting ceremonys involve planting a tree into the ground.. we just repotted a sapling into a bigger, fancier pot (we wanted to plant the tree in our own yard when we buy a  house!) – it’s all about symbolism anyway. πŸ™‚

Post # 10
2968 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i agree with the usher suggestion. you could also have him escort your or your fiance’s mother or grandmother down the aisle.

Post # 11
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Sugarbee711:  Give him some real responsibility….let him call the shots as usher and make sure the other men who are ushers are happy to respect that….

Post # 12
815 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

It’s a bit late now, but my younger brother and sister are being junior bridesmaid and groomsman. Their responsibilities involve, turning up, looking good, being lovely, being in photos and having fun being involved in such a grown u event πŸ™‚ 

Post # 13
1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Sugarbee711:  Date twins πŸ™‚ we are having my FI’s brother (also 13) escort his step sister (8) as a junior bridesmaid/groomsmen.

Post # 14
1849 posts
Buzzing bee

I think he is old enough to be a groomsman, and I don’t understand needing even sides, but is seems important to you.

If you can’t make him a groomsman, he could usher in him mom, g’ma, and any other family VIPS.

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