Post # 1
Last night my husband and I were just chilling out, listening to Christmas Carols and talking in our living room. I decorated the whole house, so there’s a touch of Christmas even in the room people wouldn’t go in (office, etc). We don’t/can’t have a tree this year because we can’t trust our dogs to NOT eat the wires (this happened last year and I shocked the heck out of myself) and the ornaments. So I really did our mantle and living room up. Candles were lit and the scent of Christmas was in the air.
We’re not buying a lot of gifts for people this year or each other due to just getting married at the end of October. So he said he’s not feeling the Christmas spirit since we’re not really shopping, etc. But I looked at him and was like, ‘Please tell me that shopping is not the way to envoke the spirit of Christmas?!?!’ And he said it wasn’t but for some reason, he isn’t feeling it this year. Another note, he’s been home for a few weeks from knee surgery and since it’s a work comp issue, and he’s a fire marshal, there is no light duty at work. It’s all or nothing…hence the reason he’s home. So he’s not out and about.
Now I don’t know what I can do to help him feel the season. We watch movies together (christmas) and each weekend we’ve done something with family and friends christmas related. This Saturday we’re spending the night at my parents, who have a tree (this might help) and making traditional Polish goodies. Then later that night I’m taking him to the local park that has lights throughout.
But I’m looking for something…something special I can do for him or we can do together so he feels the spirit of the season because he is truly bummed.
Post # 3
You could get a small artificial tree and put it up on a table so the dogs can’t reach it. We had a really small one for years!
Otherwise, i don’t know how you really force the Christmas spirit on someone since you’ve already decorated the house! Sounds like he’s more bummed about his knee
Post # 4
I found out this year that my husband doesn’t like Christmas! He doesn’t want to watch Christmas movies, listen to Christmas music or go to Christmas events (parades, etc.).
I think ejsfy8 is right. It sounds like he’s just too bummed about his knee and staying in to enjoy the holiday.
Post # 5
Hmm, he doesn’t appear to be bummed about the knee and he does enjoy this time of year. I was just interested to see about what others do to surround themselves and feel the spirit of this time of year…that’s all.
Post # 6
i love christmas time! everything about it, except shopping! haha i hate crowds.
I’ve put up a tree, decorated with lights and other christmas nick nacks…watch movies, make hot cocoa and cookies, wrap christmas presents, listen to christmas music. every year Fiance and i go to the botanical gardens and check out the christmas lights, there is also a little town about 20 minutes away that does it up big they call it “chritmas town usa”. Also Lowes motor speedway is doing a big light show this year, i plan on checking that out at some point.
honestly its been kind of hard for me to get into the christmas spirit this year. my wedding is just under 2 months away so that is in the forefront of my mind…but i try and take some time here and there to do something a little christmasy
Post # 7
I get the Christmas spirit going as soon as I put the tree up and put the lights up on the house =
Post # 8
Hmm, perhaps he needs a walk through a ‘hood that is well lit with lights…
Post # 9
Take him on one of those drive through light displays!! Those are awesome!
Post # 10
That’s a good idea! I’m going to have to check online.
Post # 11
I feel that same way that your husband does. My husband actually had to ask me to try and be happy this Christmas. I also know that Christmas isn’t about shopping, giving gifts is my love language, and it kills me that we haven’t gone Christmas shopping yet. My absolute favorite thing to do is buy presents for my friends. We also have a limited budget due to having a trip in January that we have to save for, which makes it extra difficult.
I don’t like the lights, music, songs, or most movies. Is there a particular movie that he enjoys or something that his family used to do together that you could incorporate? One of the things that always helps me is watching The Monkees’ Christmas Special. It’s random and not even something big, but it works for me.
I second the idea of getting a small tree to put up in the house where the dogs won’t get to it. I bought an inexpensive one from Target a few years back and put it in my dorm room, and it helped keep the spirit alive a little more for me. Perhaps you could even put stockings up and get each other a small gift. I’m just throwing ideas out there.
Where I used to live, they have a ice sculpture display that comes through every year. Maybe you could see if there’s something like that in your area.
Post # 12
Buy some egg nogg. Bake Christmas cookies together. Make gingerbread houses!!! They are so much fun to make and tasty too! Dont buy the premade kit just buy grahaam crackers, frosting, and candies to decorate! You could also take your dog to Petsmart (or Petco?) to get a picture with Santa! 🙂
Post # 13
It might be difficult for your husband because of his knee, but we get the best feeling by doing things for others.
We sponsor a family instead of buying gifts for each other- the look on the mom’s face when we deliver the gifts is priceless. We deliver when the kids are in school so mom can surprise them with gifts, a tree and a full Christmas dinner.
We also do volunteer work at the Food Bank. Even with his knee I know there will be some volunteer opportunity for your husband. Go vist seniors in a care home, for example. Take someone with you when you go on that drive to loook at Christmas lights.
Post # 14
A friend of mine and I turn on the Christmas carols, put up some lights, open a special bottle of wine or champagne, and write Christmas cards to the most special people in our lives each year…more like a short letter than just a signed card. It’s a really fun and cheap way for us to get that same feeling of ‘giving’ as Christmas shopping does.
I also second going to look at lights! Or a holiday concert.
Post # 15
One more vote for a mini tree that the dogs can’t get into! For me having the tree with all of its pretty lights and ornaments really puts me in the Christmas spirit! 🙂
Post # 16
What organization allows you to adopt a family the way you have done? I love this idea. We’ve done the angel tree in the past but I like this a lot!