Post # 1
I am 33. I started looking at wedding stuff over 6 years ago when my EX boyfriend started talking engagement rings (thank goodness that never worked out). Then my current guy proposed over 2 years ago and we were supposed to be married last October but life happens and now here we are back together and talking marriage AGAIN. I WANT to get married, and am excited about it, but I am on cutesy/DIY/rustic/vintage overload. I don’t give a hoot what the bridal party wears, I don’t want crazy coloured shoes or polka dots or stripes or a candy bar, or moustaches on a stick. I think it is all totally cute, but I am just not into it anymore. I want a relaxed elegant, romantic evening with wine, good food, and friends. No paper lanterns, no photobooths, just a grown-up party. No diamonds, no crazy bling, no peacock feathers, no mason jars, no signature cocktails. Just simple.
So what the heck do I do? Any grown up inspiration out there? Anyone else feel the same?
Post # 3
If you have a small wedding, reserve a top of the line suite at the best hotel out there where you live and have a nice ceremony on the balcony! Then have a relaxed dinner with the people you love the most! That’s what we want to do when we have our 25 year annniversary! We just renewed our vows on our 10 year anniversary! I know soooo mushy! We were going to do that at a swanky hotel in town but it was too late for us!
Post # 4
I am almost 48 years old, and I have a princessy prom dress (embroidered colors) for my wedding, but I also don’t want the whole cutesy thing going on , my dress is cutesy enough! LOL
So I decided to go for a Sunday Buffet Brunch at a restaurant where I don’t have to worry about decorating! I will have something on the “bridal” table (the table which will be reserved for us) but I don’t know what yet. I am still looking!
Post # 5
@RedSergeSpouse: I would start by choosing a venue. See what catering options you have. Find a dress. Pick a day.
Post # 6
I hear ya. I wanted to invite 30 people and book a private room at a restaurant for our wedding “reception”. If we hired an officiant, we would have performed the ceremony in the same spot, or maybe in a park somewhere. Or, we could have just gone to City Hall that morning.
But, my husband wanted a bigger wedding, so we had one. The only things on your list that we did include were: (1) I wore colored shoes, but that’s just because I cannot stand white shoes and (2) we did hang paper lanterns because the space was too stark without them, and they were cheap.
Post # 7
I don’t know where you are located but I think a vineyard would make a very elegant but relaxed backdrop for your wedding. It sounds like you don’t want a large party so maybe a ceremony in the vineyard and then a nice dinner inside would suit you?
Post # 8
@RedSergeSpouse: I know what you mean. My Fiance and I went to a bridla show this past weekend and the stuff they have there is crazy! LOL
I am like you, I just want a simple, rustic, romantic, warm wedding. I am not into halls and big parties with bling, limos… etc…
We were able to find an old mansion built in 1817 and we will have our ceremony and reception there for about 100 people. The colours of linnens will be ivory and chocolate brown. Candle light throughtout the house. DJ will only bring couple of lights but no more then that… It will just be simple and warm.
Don’t feel pressured to go with what everyone else is going with…. Do what you guys want to do. What you invision… it’s your day 🙂
Post # 9
This is pretty much what we did. our wedding was at an arts center (a gallery, essentially, but they don’t call it that.) With all the art already there, I didn’t feel bad about not doing elaborate centerpeices – we did votives and colored tablecloths, and that was about it. We focused on making sure the food was great, we had a dj we loved, and not worrying too much on anything cutesy. 🙂 I’ve attached a picture of the room – it was just perfect for our sized wedding. (We had about 55 people, including us.)
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I think you may think along the same lines that I do. We invited 35 guests, had an intimate ceremony performed by a friend, enjoyed cocktail hour with white glove service, and dined on 4 courses complete with wine and beer pairings for each course. The night was capped off with scotch and cigars in the garden while chatting and laughing with our nearest and dearest. No DJ, no raucus dance party, no candy/popcorn/hot cocoa/whatever bar, no 5 tiered cake, no garter toss or shoe game, no bunting, no cornhole, etc. We kept it simple, elegant, and totally us with a focus on amazing food, amazing drinks, and our amazing family and friends. photos here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/our-intimate-elegant-lovely-affair-teaser-pics
Post # 11
Aahhh…thank you all, such a breath of fresh air! I do reallly like the hotel suite and the art gallery…but there are no vineyards close by. But an old mansion would also really work. I will have to look into the these types of venues. Thank you all so much, it’s nice to see other people who appreciate simple but warm weddings. Lovekiss, beautiful wedding!